The Physiology of Marriage, Complete
“Marriage is not an institution of nature. The family in the east is entirely different from the family in the west. Man is the servant of nature, and the institutions of society are grafts, not spontaneous growths of nature. Laws are made to suit manners, and manners vary.
“Marriage must therefore undergo the gradual development towards perfection to which all human affairs submit.”
These words, pronounced in the presence of the Conseil d’Etat by Napoleon during the discussion of the civil code, produced a profound impression upon the author of this book; and perhaps unconsciously he received the suggestion of this work, which he now presents to the public. And indeed at the period during which, while still in his youth, he studied French law, the word ADULTERY made a singular impression upon him. Taking, as it did, a prominent place in the code, this word never occurred to his mind without conjuring up its mournful train of consequences. Tears, shame, hatred, terror, secret crime, bloody wars, families without a head, and social misery rose like a sudden line of phantoms before him when he read the solemn word ADULTERY! Later on, when he became acquainted with the most cultivated circles of society, the author perceived that the rigor of marriage laws was very generally modified by adultery. He found that the number of unhappy homes was larger than that of happy marriages. In fact, he was the first to notice that of all human sciences that which relates to marriage was the least progressive. But this was the observation of a young man; and with him, as with so many others, this thought, like a pebble flung into the bosom of a lake, was lost in the abyss of his tumultuous thoughts. Nevertheless, in spite of himself the author was compelled to investigate, and eventually there was gathered within his mind, little by little, a swarm of conclusions, more or less just, on the subject of married life. Works like the present one are formed in the mind of the author with as much mystery as that with which truffles grow on the scented plains of Perigord. Out of the primitive and holy horror which adultery caused him and the investigation which he had thoughtlessly made, there was born one morning a trifling thought in which his ideas were formulated. This thought was really a satire upon marriage. It was as follows: A husband and wife found themselves in love with each other for the first time after twenty-seven years of marriage.
Honoré de Balzac
THE PHYSIOLOGY OF MARRIAGE;
Contents
INTRODUCTION
DECEMBER 5, 1829.
FIRST PART. A GENERAL CONSIDERATION.
MEDITATION I. THE SUBJECT.
Physiology, what must I consider your meaning?
MEDITATION II. MARRIAGE STATISTICS.
MEDITATION III. OF THE HONEST WOMAN.
APHORISMS.
MEDITATION IV. OF THE VIRTUOUS WOMAN.
MEDITATION V. OF THE PREDESTINED.
MEDITATION VI. OF BOARDING SCHOOLS.
MEDITATION VII. OF THE HONEYMOON.
MEDITATION VIII. OF THE FIRST SYMPTOMS.
MEDITATION IX. EPILOGUE.
SECOND PART. MEANS OF DEFENCE, INTERIOR AND EXTERIOR.
MEDITATION X. A TREATISE ON MARITAL POLICY.
MEDITATION XI. INSTRUCTION IN THE HOME.
MEDITATION XII. THE HYGIENE OF MARRIAGE.
MEDITATION XIII. OF PERSONAL MEASURES.
MEDITATION XIV. OF APARTMENTS.
MEDITATION XV. OF THE CUSTOM HOUSE.
“But no, madame, no—”
MEDITATION XVI. THE CHARTER OF MARRIAGE.
MEDITATION XVII. THE THEORY OF THE BED.
MEDITATION XVIII. OF MARITAL REVOLUTIONS.
MEDITATION XIX. OF THE LOVER.
We offer the following maxims for your consideration:
MEDITATION XX. ESSAY ON POLICE.
MEDITATION XXI. THE ART OF RETURNING HOME.
MEDITATION XXII. OF CATASTROPHES.
THIRD PART. RELATING TO CIVIL WAR.
MEDITATION XXIII. OF MANIFESTOES.
MEDITATION XXIV. PRINCIPLES OF STRATEGY.
MEDITATION XXV. OF ALLIES.
1. OF RELIGIONS AND OF CONFESSION; CONSIDERED IN THEIR CONNECTION WITH
MARRIAGE.
2. OF THE MOTHER-IN-LAW.
3. OF BOARDING SCHOOL FRIENDS AND INTIMATE FRIENDS.
4. OF THE LOVER’S ALLIES.
6. OF THE DOCTOR.
MEDITATION XXVI. OF DIFFERENT WEAPONS.
MEDITATION XXVII. OF THE LAST SYMPTOMS.
MINOTAURIC OBSERVATIONS.
LAST AXIOMS.
MEDITATION XXVIII. OF COMPENSATIONS.
MEDITATION XXIX. OF CONJUGAL PEACE.
MEDITATION XXX. CONCLUSION.
POSTSCRIPT.
PARIS, 1824-29.