The Physiology of Marriage, Part 3
Produced by Dagny; and John Bickers
Lovely as the seraphs of Klopstock, Terrible as the devils of Milton. —DIDEROT.
The Preliminary precepts, by which science has been enabled at this point to put weapons into the hand of a husband, are few in number; it is not of so much importance to know whether he will be vanquished, as to examine whether he can offer any resistance in the conflict.
Meanwhile, we will set up here certain beacons to light up the arena where a husband is soon to find himself, in alliance with religion and law, engaged single-handed in a contest with his wife, who is supported by her native craft and the whole usages of society as her allies.
LXXXII. Anything may be expected and anything may be supposed of a woman who is in love.
LXXXIII. The actions of a woman who intends to deceive her husband are almost always the result of study, but never dictated by reason.
LXXXIV. The greater number of women advance like the fleas, by erratic leaps and bounds, They owe their escape to the height or depth of their first ideas, and any interruption of their plans rather favors their execution. But they operate only within a narrow area which it is easy for the husband to make still narrower; and if he keeps cool he will end by extinguishing this piece of living saltpetre.
LXXXV. A husband should never allow himself to address a single disparaging remark to his wife, in presence of a third party.
LXXXVI. The moment a wife decides to break her marriage vow she reckons her husband as everything or nothing. All defensive operations must start from this proposition.
LXXXVII. The life of a woman is either of the head, of the heart, or of passion. When a woman reaches the age to form an estimate of life, her husband ought to find out whether the primary cause of her intended infidelity proceeds from vanity, from sentiment or from temperament. Temperament may be remedied like disease; sentiment is something in which the husband may find great opportunities of success; but vanity is incurable. A woman whose life is of the head may be a terrible scourge. She combines the faults of a passionate woman with those of the tender-hearted woman, without having their palliations. She is destitute alike of pity, love, virtue or sex.
Honoré de Balzac
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THE PHYSIOLOGY OF MARRIAGE
RELATING TO CIVIL WAR.
MEDITATION XXIII.
MEDITATION XXIV.
MEDITATION XXV.
2. OF THE MOTHER-IN-LAW.
3. OF BOARDING SCHOOL FRIENDS AND INTIMATE FRIENDS.
4. OF THE LOVER'S ALLIES.
5. OF THE MAID.
6. OF THE DOCTOR.
MEDITATION XXVI.
2. OF NERVOUS AFFECTATIONS.
3. OF MODESTY, IN ITS CONNECTION WITH MARRIAGE.
MEDITATION XXVII.
II.
III.
IV.
V.
VI.
VII.
VIII.
IX.
X.
XI.
XII.
XIII.
XIV.
XV.
XVI.
XVII.
XVIII.
XIX.
XX.
XXI.
LAST AXIOMS.
MEDITATION XXVIII.
MEDITATION XXIX.
MEDITATION XXX.
POSTSCRIPT.
PARIS, 1824-29.