THE DUTIES, RESPONSIBILITIES AND FAILURES
IN AND OF MARRIED LIFE.
What more perfect or pleasing picture than that of happy married life. Yet how little of it we see! How the newspapers dish up to us in strong words the misery, despair, wretchedness, infidelity and deceit of the divorce court. How it stares at us from the desolate fireside of friend and acquaintance; is hinted at or suppressed by the records of the Coroner’s office; leers at us from the sumptuous mansion of the affluent; lurks in the humble cottage of the mechanic. How sad the contrast between the home where nestle happiness, love, contentment, offspring; and the abode of suspicion, deceit, infidelity or barrenness.
And yet men and women are being married every day, every hour—ay, every minute. Men and women incompatible physically, mentally, morally—urged on by lust, cupidity, love; to escape unhappy homes; to hide sad sins—for a thousand reasons, some good, many bad—are constantly marrying.
A man selects a wife less carefully than he would a horse; a woman yields herself, her life, her happiness, blindly, unreasoningly, to a man of whom she knows nothing. A man better fitted for the hospital, the infirmary, or the insane asylum, enters the bonds of wedlock with never a thought of the consequences; with never a care as to whether he will wreck his own life and happiness or that of the innocent girl he is deceiving; with never a heed of the ill-starred, diseased, puny or idiotic progeny his act may bring into being, a burden to the community, a curse to himself and a constant reminder of the parent’s foolhardiness—ay, even crime!
No man who is affected with any form of Sexual or Venereal Disease should for a single instant even think of marriage until every trace of his weakness or disease has disappeared. In these days of medical advance in this special field, there is no excuse for such action. There are few—very few—cases of Seminal Weakness and Impotency that cannot now be cured. Of course, here as elsewhere, there are traps and humbugs, quacks and charlatans, false theories and empty moralizing; but there is also truth and knowledge, hope and certainty for such as are sufficiently in earnest to search for them. Prof. Civiale, by his indomitable perseverance, thorough study and experiment, and final conclusions and discoveries, has placed the means of a perfect restoration to full mental, bodily and sexual vigor within the reach of all, and no man has any right now to enter either blindly or wilfully into so sacred and important a relationship as marriage, and to lower and stultify its ends by blighting the happiness of a fair young wife, exhausting his own vitality in the vain attempt to have offspring, or in having such as shall be a curse to him through life.
There are those (let it be hoped they are really honest in their ignorance) who look upon marriage as the only real cure for Seminal Weaknesses. Even if it were a fact that the marital relations did accomplish such a result (and they never do, as bear witness the thousands who are to-day weak, exhausted, ex-sanguinated, unhappy, nerveless, hopeless wrecks, who are cursing the ignorant pretenders who gave this false—this fatal advice); even if such a Our Treatment is Pleasant, Quick and Lasting. result was a certainty, what right has any man to besmirch and soil the purity of a happy and innocent maiden for such a purpose? By what law of humanity are woman’s hopes and happiness to be hazarded on so fragile a basis, her bark of life to be launched into a pool of such sickening bestiality? Such marriages bear and are bearing deadly fruit before our eyes day by day, in infidelity, abandonment, suicide, insanity, crime and prostitution—in disease and misery, even to the third and fourth generation.
A SPECIAL SET OF PRE-MARITAL (Before Marriage) REMEDIES.
No more delicate or wonderful piece of mechanism, no more grandly conceived and wonderfully perfected bit of God’s handicraft is to be found than the Male and Female Sexual Organs. It is a wonder to those who have made these parts (with their elastic vessels, cavernous sinuses, network of nervous ganglia and fibrillæ, chain of lymphatics, periodical ovulation, timed pubescence, and perfected, co-ordinate functions) a study, that they stand abuse and excess so well; that the fierce blasts of lust and passion that sear and scorch them and well-nigh dry up their fountain springs of vitality and fecundity, do not wholly destroy or hopelessly disarrange their delicate tissues and functions.
The first few years of married life, even to a healthy man, are fraught with dangers he knows nothing of. How much more then is the sufferer from a present or even a former Seminal Weakness in danger.
No man, be he ever so healthy, ever so conscious of purity and freedom from abuse, should enter the marital state without preparing for the strain naturally to be expected. As the voice, skin, hair, manner and morals of the youth change at the period of puberty (when the sexual power is first developed—when he first becomes a man), so does the system, mental and moral, change when he enters the bonds of matrimony. If at puberty new diseases are prone to show themselves and old ones to be outgrown, so at marriage a like change must be at least expected, and he who blindly or thoughtlessly hazards a leap in the dark is foolish, or rather foolhardy.
A SPECIAL COURSE OF NERVE AND SEXUAL TONICS.
Especially for the use of young men who have endangered or injured their sexual power by abuse in early years, and for older men who have exhausted themselves by later excesses. Prof. Civiale was wont (very wisely, we know from actual experience) to prescribe, for a few months before marriage, a Special Tonic and Strengthening Marital Course of Remedies, having three distinct ends in view, viz.:
(a) The strengthening, toning up and fortifying of the general system, nerves and brain, against the unusual call soon to be made upon them;
(b) The strengthening, toning up and fortifying of the Sexual Nerves, Ducts, Ganglia, Vesicles and Testes, against the strain soon to be applied to them, and by this and the preceding means putting the individual in the very When you are Tired of being Humbugged or Experimented on, send to us. best and most favorable condition for the production of strong, healthy, robust and creditable offspring; and
(c) The steady and perfect eradication from the system, by every pore and viaduct, of all poisonous, contagious, venereal or other material that might in any way endanger the perfectly normal (healthy and strong) condition of parent or offspring above spoken of. Through early abuse, excesses, exposure, neglect, carelessness, imperfect sanitary conditions, wrong methods of living, immoral practices, etc., the blood and liver are liable, even though the skin be clear and the cheeks rosy, to harbor some poisonous humors that might be transmitted to the wife or offspring—poor innocents, too often made to suffer pitiably for the vices or thoughtlessness of the father.
Every man about to marry owes this cleansing, purification and strengthening of the system general and the system sexual, to his wife, his fellow men and to himself.