Etiquette

by Emily Post

INDEX

[ToC]

• Acceptance of an invitation, [122-123];
  • to a formal dinner, [187], [188];
  • to an informal dinner, [125];
  • to a wedding, [111].
• Acknowledgment of Christmas presents, [407-408];
  • of wedding presents, [320];
  • of messages of condolence, [406-408].
• Address, forms of. See: Forms of address.
• Address, notification of, [180];
  • by bride and groom, [108-109].
• Address on envelopes, [460], [486], [488];
  • on letters, [450], [455], [460], [461];
  • on visiting cards, [74-76].
• Afternoon parties, chapter on, [165-176].
• Afternoon teas. See: Teas.
• Ambassador, close of letter to, [456];
  • function of in presentation at court, [609];
  • how to address, [488];
  • how to announce as a guest, [214];
  • how to introduce, [4], [489].
• Americans abroad, [604-616].
• Announcement of a death, [390];
  • of an engagement, [89], [304-306], [309];
  • of a second marriage, [108];
  • of a wedding,[106-10] [7].
• Announcing dinner, [217].
• Announcing guests, at afternoon tea, [167];
  • at dinner, [214-215].
• Answering the door, [145]. See also:
  • "Not at home."
• Anthem, national, [23].
• Apology, form of, [23-24];
  • letters of, [462-463];
  • at the theater, [41].
• Archbishop, close of letter to, [489];
  • how to address, [488];
  • how to introduce, [489].
• Argumentativeness, [50].
• Arm, etiquette of offering and taking, [30].
• Artichokes, how to eat, [583].
• Asking for a dance, [267], [270].
• Asparagus, how to eat, [582].
• Assemblies, [272-275].
• Assemblyman, [486], [487].
• At home with dancing, invitations to an, [112-116].
• Au revoir, avoidance of use of, [19].
• Automobiles. See: Motoring; Vehicles.
• Baby, clothes for, at a christening, [385];
  • letters of thanks for gifts to, [468];
  • training in table manners, [571].
• Bachelor's apartment, tea in, [292];
  • dinner, [230], [336-337], [375];
  • party, [71], [296-298];
  • theater party, [38].
• Bachelor girl, [295].
• Ball dress, [541], [546-547], [557], [603];
  • in opera box, [37].
• Ballroom, etiquette in, [258-262];
  • for an afternoon tea, [167].
• Balls, chapter on, [250-275];
  • clothes for, [569];
  • gloves at, [20];
  • hand-shaking at, [20];
  • introductions at, [10], [16];
  • invitations to, [112-116];
  • for a débutante, [276-279];
  • public, [271-275].
• Beginning a letter, [492-494].
• Behavior, good, fundamentals of, [506-510].
• Best man, [331], [344];
  • clothes of, [333];
  • duties of on wedding day, [345-346];
  • during the marriage ceremony, [358], [359], [360];
  • after the marriage ceremony, [361];
  • in rehearsal, [341], [342];
  • at the wedding breakfast, [368].
• Best Society, chapter on, [1-3];
  • definition of, [3].
• Beverages at afternoon teas, [167], [168], [169], [170], [173], [174];
  • at ball suppers, [257];
  • at formal dinners, [205], [209];
  • at luncheons, [244-245];
  • at wedding breakfasts, [365], [368].
• Big dinners, [225-226].
• Birds, how to eat, [584], [585].
• Bishop, close of letter to, [489];
  • how to address, [488];
  • how to introduce, [5], [489].
• Bones, management of, at table, [583-584].
• Boots, [551], [568].
• Bouquet, bridal, [344], [358], [359];
  • of bridesmaid, [328].
• Boutonnière, [334], [344], [354], [357], [551], [563].
• Bowing, etiquette of, [20], [21], [23], [24-27], [93], [508];
  • at court, [610].
• Bread and butter, how to eat, [583].
• Bread and butter letters, [468-470].
• Breakfast, invitations to, [238-239];
  • for country house guests, [427-429];
  • wedding, [364-368].
• Bridal procession, [339-342], [357-358].
• Bridal veil, [350], [351].
• Bride, acknowledgment of gifts by, [320]. [321];
  • acquiring of social position by, [66-68];
  • calls of, [66];
  • calls on, [67-91];
  • gifts of to bridesmaids, [336];
  • gifts to by groom, [344];
  • giving away of, [353], [359];
  • house of on wedding day, [347]. [350];
  • letters of thanks to relatives-in-law, [471];
  • during the marriage ceremony, [358], [359], [360];
  • in rehearsal, [338-342];
  • at the wedding breakfast, [362], [368];
  • as a chaperon, [289];
  • as a guest of honor, [11].
• Bride's going away dress, [370].
• Bride's mother, cards left with, [87].
• Bride's parents, [340-342], [353], [357-360], [366];
  • expenses of for wedding, [377-378].
• Bride's table, [365].
• Bridegroom, [341-342], [357-360];
  • clothes of, [332], [333];
  • expenses of, [337], [342-344], [378];
  • as a guest of honor, [11];
  • parents of, at wedding reception, [364];
  • wedding given by, [316-318].
• Bridegroom's mother, card left with, [87].
• Bridesmaids, [328-332], [339-340], [342], [351], [353], [358-361], [368].
• Bridesmaids' luncheon, [335-336].
• Bridesmaids' and ushers' dinner, [336].
• Bridge, [524-527];
  • introduction at, [12];
  • invitation to, [124], [128-129].
• Buffet at afternoon teas, [167];
  • luncheons, [248-249].
• Bundles, carrying of, [29].
• Burials, women at, [327].
• Business etiquette, [530-539];
  • letters, [455], [460-461];
  • relations between men and women, [23], [506], [530-532];
  • suits, [152], [246], [566-567], [570];
  • visits, [15], [23], [533-534].
• Butler, [142-144], [161-163], [167], [186-187], [201-202], [214], [425].
• Butter, avoidance of at formal dinner, [206], [585].
• Cabaret, supper at, [293].
• Cabinet, member of, close of letter to, [456], [487];
  • how to address, [486];
  • how to announce as a guest, [214];
  • how to introduce, [487].
• Cardinal, close of letter to, [487];
  • how to address, [486]; how to introduce, [4], [487].
• Calls. See: Visits.
• Camp, house party in, chapter on, [440-447];
  • invitation to, [127].
• Cards, of address, [108];
  • of admittance to church weddings, [102];
  • of general invitation, [118];
  • of introduction to a club, [521];
  • as invitations, [124], [168], [169];
  • at funerals, [408];
  • with gifts, [321], [322];
  • menu, [210];
  • place, [210];
  • visiting, chapter on, [73-97].
• Carriages. See: Vehicles.
• Cars. See: Street cars; Motoring; Vehicles.
• Carving, [229-230].
• Cereal, how to eat, [573].
• Celebrities, afternoon teas in honor of, [168].
• Chaperon, [138];
  • chapter on, [288-298];
  • at public balls, [271].
• Chic woman, [542].
• Chicken, how to eat, [584], [585].
• Children, cards of, [78];
  • conversation about, [49];
  • invitations to, [459], [460];
  • parties for, [580-581];
  • table manners of, [571-582];
  • training of, [587-588], [592];
  • at afternoon tea, [579-580];
  • on railway trains, [594].
• Christenings, chapter on, [380-386].
• Christmas presents, [467-468].
• Church, greetings in, [19-20];
  • leave-taking at, [20].
• Church weddings, [102-103]; [314-316]; [339-342];
  • invitations to, [99-100].
• Cigars. See: Smoking.
• Circus, etiquette at, [46].
• Clergy, how to introduce, [4-5].
• Clergyman, close of letter to, [456], [489];
  • how to address, [488];
  • how to introduce, [489];
  • visiting card of, [78];
  • wedding fee of, [344].
• Closing a letter, [455-458], [460], [487], [489-490], [494-496].
• Clothes, at an afternoon tea, [165], [547], [556];
  • at a christening, [385-386];
  • at a concert, [547];
  • at a funeral, [408];
  • at a house party in camp, [441-442];
  • at luncheon, [246];
  • at the opera, [35], [547], [549];
  • at theater, [42-43], [547], [569];
  • on a visit, [97];
  • at a wedding, [328-330], [332-334], [556], [569-570];
  • for a débutante, [281];
  • for a gentleman, chapter on, [562-570];
  • for a lady, chapter on, [540-570];
  • for servants, [138], [140], [143-144], [151-152], [246-247];
  • for people with limited incomes, [543-545], [553-557].
• Clubs, chapter on, [511-523];
  • conversation in, [508].
• Colloquial language, [62].
• Colors, passing of the, [23].
• Companion, [138].
• Concert, clothes for, [547].
• Condolence, [406-408];
  • letters of, [483-485];
  • visits of, [88], [93].
• Congratulations, to bride and groom, [362];
  • letters of, [481-483].
• Congressman, [486], [487].
• Consul, [488], [489].
• Contradiction, [50-51].
• Conspicuousness, avoidance of, [28].
• Conventions for the young girl, [292-294].
• Conversation, [506-508];
  • chapter on, [48-57];
  • foreign words in, [19];
  • how to begin, [8];
  • at afternoon tea, [170];
  • at dinner, [216], [221], [223-225];
  • at the home table, [592];
  • at the opera, [37];
  • on a railway train, [595];
  • on a steamer, [599], [600], [602];
  • on the street, [28];
  • at the table, [10], [12], [576-577];
  • at the theater, [40-41];
  • at a wedding, [355], [362-363];
  • without an introduction, [10], [12], [599-600].
• Cook, [146-147], [178], [234-235].
• Corn, how to eat, [573].
• Corn on the cob, when to eat, [582].
• Correct usage of words and phrases, [58-62].
• Correspondence. See: Letters.
• Country clothes, [548-550]; [568], [570]; [603].
• Country clubs, [516-517], [520].
• Country house, chapter on, [410-439];
  • invitations to, [126];
  • letters of thanks for visits to, [468-473];
  • stationery, [451-453].
• Court, presentation at, [609-610].
• Courtship, [299-301].
• Crests, [451].
• Cuff links, [144], [152], [567].
• Cup, use of, [573].
• Cut direct, [26-27].
• Cutaway coat, [246], [332], [566], [569].
• Cutting in at a dance, [269-270].
• Dances, chapter on, [250-275];
  • introductions at, [16];
  • invitations to, [112-116], [124], [128], [251-254], [259-260];
  • at an afternoon tea, [166];
  • at a wedding, [369].
• Dating a letter, [453].
• Day dress, [555-556].
• Days at home, [82], [86-87].
• Death, notice of, [387], [390].
• Debts, [506], [509], [523].
• Débutante, [11], [80], [114-116], [252], [257];
  • chapter on, [276-287].
• Débutante's card, [79];
  • theater party, [43-46].
• Dessert, [207-209], [573].
• Devices on stationery, [451-453].
• Dining-room, appointments of, [192-194].
• Dining-saloon etiquette, [509-10].
• Dinner, announcement of, [162-163], [217];
  • clothes for, [546-547], [559], [569], [589], [603];
  • introductions at, [10], [12-13];
  • invitations to, [119], [124-125], [128], [188];
  • seating at, [162], [178-179], [196], [210-212], [229];
  • taking in to, [12], [217-218];
  • formal, chapter on, [177-230];
  • before the opera, [35];
  • before the theater, [38];
  • for bridesmaids and ushers; for engaged couples, [305-306];
  • for parents of groom-elect, [310];
  • for week-end guests, [418-419];
  • in camp, [444];
  • with limited equipment, chapter on, [231-237].
• Dinner coat, [42].
• Dishes, how to present, [206].
• Dishing, [235].
• Divorce, [507], [509].
• Divorced woman, name of, [459];
  • visiting card of, [78].
• Doctor, how to introduce, [5];
  • visiting cards of, [78].
• Don'ts for débutantes, [284];
  • for a hostess at country house, [431-435];
  • for setting the table, [199-200];
  • for writing a letter, [493], [502-503], [505].
• Double cards, [79].
• Drawing-room, [94], [184], [214], [224-225].
• Dress. See: Clothes.
• Drinking, [573-574].
• Drinks. See: Beverages.
• Duke, how to address, [608].
• Earl, how to address, [608].
• Eating difficult foods, [223], [582-585].
• Eggs, how to eat, [574-584].
• Elbows on the table, [585-586].
• Elevator, removal of gentleman's hat in, [22].
• Elopements, [301].
• Engaged couples, afternoon tea in honor of, [168];
  • dinner for, [305-306];
  • entertainments for, [304];
  • photographs of in newspapers, [304];
  • visits of, [32].
  • See also: Fiancée.
• Engagements, chapter On, [299].[311];
  • announcement of, [89];
  • congratulations on, [481-482];
  • letters to relatives on, [303].
• Engraved cards of thanks, [474];
  • pew cards, [103];
  • visiting cards, [73-76].
• English clothes, [553], [561-562].
• Entertainments, introductions at, [10];
  • service at, [159-164];
  • after dinner, [225];
  • at camp, [445-446];
  • at country house, [430], [433-434];
  • for engaged couples, [304].
• Envelopes, [450], [454].
• Escorts, [31-32], [594-595].
• Etiquette, scope of, [3].
• European travel, [604-616].
• Evening clothes, [144], [281], [318], [549], [557], [559], [563-564], [603].
• Expenses, clothing, [543-545], [553-557];
  • funeral, [390-391];
  • wedding, [317], [329], [342-344], [376-378].
• Ex-President of the United States, how to introduce, [5].
• Family affairs, conversation about, [49], [506-507], [509], [592].
• Fare, payment of, [31].
• Fashion, [541-543], [557-558].
• Father's consent to an engagement, [301].
• Fiancée, asking invitations for to a ball, [253];
  • etiquette for, [308];
  • gifts to by groom-elect, [310-311];
  • visits of, [95];
  • visits to, [88], [303].
• Finger bowl, [208-209], [585].
• Finger food, [582-585].
• Flower girls, [330], [358].
• Flowers, cards with, [79];
  • for débutante, [277-278];
  • for fiancée, [310-311];
  • for funerals, [394-395];
  • for the guest room, [417];
  • for the table, [193], [195], [591];
  • for a wedding, [315-316], [348-349].
• Folding a note, [454].
• Food, at an afternoon tea, [167-170], [172-173];
  • at a ball supper, [256-257];
  • in camp, [444-445];
  • for country house guests, [418], [427-428];
  • for formal dinner, [184], [188-190], [232-235];
  • for luncheon, [243-244];
  • on a train, [592-593];
  • for a wedding breakfast, [365], [368];
  • how to eat difficult foods, [223], [582-585].
• Footmen, house, [144-146].
• Foreign language, [610-612].
• Foreigners, shaking hands with, [20];
  • titled, how to address, [608-609];
  • how to announce as guests, [215];
  • letters to, [490].
• Fork, [196-197], [203-204];
  • use of, [573-575], [584-585].
• Forms of address, [455], [486-489], [608-609].
• Frock coat, [332], [566], [569].
• Full dress, [35], [42], [569].
• Funerals, chapter on, [387-409].
• Furnishings, of a camp, [443];
  • of a dining-room, [192-194];
  • of a guest room, [414-417].
• Furniture, [132-135].
• Games, [12];
  • outdoor, [46-47];
  • and sports, chapter on, [524-529].
  • See also: Entertainments.
• Garden party, [174-175];
  • dress for, [556].
• Gentleman, The, [506-508].
• Gentleman's stick, [22], [143], [45], [358], [360], [564].
• Gifts, Christmas, [468];
  • wedding, [319-323];
  • to baby, [382], [468];
  • to bride by groom, [344];
  • to bridesmaids, [336];
  • to engaged couple, [306];
  • to fiancée by groom-elect, [310-311];
  • to wedding ushers, [337];
  • of tickets for balls, concerts, etc., [43].
• Girls. See: Young girl.
• Gloves, [220], [246], [333-334], [344], [357], [544], [552], [554-556], [563];
  • removal of when shaking hands, [20];
  • bridegroom's, [333];
  • white, when worn by a gentleman, [35].
• Godparents, [380-382].
• Golf, [527].[528];
  • invitation to, [128];
  • clubs, [517].
• Good-bys. See: Leave taking.
• Governor, close of letter to, [487];
  • how to address, [486];
  • how to announce as a guest, [214];
  • how to introduce, [487].
• Greetings, chapter on, [18-21];
  • abroad, [606-607];
  • to mourners, [399].
• Guest cards, [417-418];
  • lists, [186-187];
  • rooms, [413-417], [425-427].
• Guests, announcement of, [161-162], [214-215];
  • introduction of, [11-12], [487], [489];
  • selection of, [72];
  • to country house, [419-420];
  • to débutante's party, [280];
  • to formal dinner, [178], [185-186];
  • to a wedding, [312-314];
  • tipping by, [426-427].
• Guests, distinguished, [11], [216].
• Guests at an afternoon tea, [170];
  • at a christening, [380], [383];
  • at a country house, [410-412], [429-431], [435-439], [470];
  • at a club, [520-523];
  • at a formal dinner, [184], [210-212];
  • at a garden party, [175];
  • at luncheon, [240];
  • in opera box, [35];
  • on private car, [439];
  • on yacht, [439].
  • See also: Precedence;—Seating.
• Handwriting, [448-449], [460].
• Hanging the bell, [390].
• Hat, [35], [245-246], [357], [544], [549], [555-556], [564], [566];
  • lifting of, [23-24];
  • removal of by a gentleman, [22-23], [25].
• Headdress, [42], [319], [347], [544], [546-547], [552].
• Healths to the bride, [337];
  • to an engaged couple, [305].
• "Hello" as a greeting, [19-20].
• Home, manners in the, [587-592].
• Hospitality at parties, [175-176];
  • in a country house, chapter on, [410-439].
• Host, bachelor as, [295-298];
  • payment of restaurant checks by, [32];
  • introductions by, [12];
  • at a ball, [260];
  • at a country house, [429];
  • at a dinner, [184], [211-212], [217];
  • at a garden party, [175].
• Hostess, manners of, [218];
  • payment of restaurant checks by, [32];
  • presentation to at a dance or at the opera, [12].
• Hostess at an afternoon tea, [167-170];
  • at a ball, [258-259];
  • in a country house, [411-413], [431-435];
  • at a dinner, [177-184], [210-212], [215-220], [227];
  • at a garden party, [175];
  • at a luncheon, [240].
• Hotels, [596-597].
• Hour, dinner, [201];
  • wedding, [314], [318-319];
  • week-end party, [411].
• House, the well-appointed, chapter on, [131-164];
  • formal entertaining in, [159-164];
  • furniture in, [132-135];
  • organization of, [145-155];
  • servants in, [155-159];
  • service in, [135-145].
• House party, introductions at, [10];
  • invitations to, [124], [130];
  • bachelor's, [296-298];
  • camp, [440-447],
  • country house, [411-439].
• House suit, [565].
• House wedding, [373-375].
• Housekeeper, [140-141].
• Housemaid, [148], [425-426].
• Hunting clubs, [517].
• Husband and wife, [54], [214], [413], [507], [509], [589-591].
• Ice cream as dessert, [207-208].
• Initials, in the signature of a letter, [458];
  • on visiting cards, [76-77];
  • on wedding presents, [322-323].
• "Introduce," when used in introductions, [4].
• Introductions, chapter on, [4-17];
  • greetings at, [18-19];
  • letters of, [16-17], [475-478];
  • at a ball, [10], [16];
  • at bridge, [12];
  • at a dinner, [10], [12-13];
  • at a house party;
  • at a luncheon, [9-10];
  • at the opera, [36];
  • on a steamer, [601-602];
  • on the street, [13];
  • at a wedding, [11], [363];
  • of guests of honor, [11];
  • of important personages, [487], [489];
  • of titled foreigners, [608-609];
  • of a visitor to a club, [520-522];
  • self, [12], [602].
• Invalids, return visits of, [96];
  • visits to, [88], [93].
• Invitations, chapter on, [98-130];
  • asking for, [117].[118];
  • cards in connection with, [83-84], [87], [118], [124], [168], [169];
  • by a chaperon, [291];
  • by telephone, [128-130], [238-239], [380];
  • to an at home with dancing, [112-116];
  • to a bachelor's party, [297-298];
  • to a ball or dance, [112-116], [124], [128], [251-254], [259-260];
  • to a breakfast, [238-239];
  • to bridge, [124], [128-129];
  • to camp, [127];
  • to children, [459-460];
  • to a christening, [380];
  • to country house, [419];
  • to a dinner, [119], [124].[125], [128], [188];
  • to golf, [128];
  • to a luncheon, [120], [125-126], [238-239];
  • to a picnic, [124-128];
  • to a house party, [124], [130];
  • to a reception, [119];
  • to theater, [38-39];
  • to a wedding, [98-109], [111], [312-314];
  • to a wedding anniversary, [110].
  • See also: Guests, selection Of.
• Jewelry, [144], [544], [546-548], [567], [612];
  • for the bride, [344];
  • of mourners, [401];
  • at the opera, [37];
  • at the theater, [42].
• Journeys of engaged couples, [310].
• Judge, how to introduce, [5];
  • visiting cards of, [78].
• Justice of the Supreme Court, close of letter to [487];
  • how to address, [486];
  • how to announce as a guest, [214];
  • how to introduce, [487].
• Keeping dinner engagements, [187-188].
• King. See: Court; Royalty.
• Kissing, [96], [307], [362-363].
• Kitchen-maid, [147-148].
• Knife, [207];
  • use of, [574-575].
• Knight, how to address, [608].
• Lady traveling alone in Europe, [613-614].
• Lady's maid, [150], [425].
• Language, [58-64], [610-612].
• Leave taking, at church, [20];
  • after dinner, [226-227];
  • after an introduction, [9], [19];
  • after a luncheon, [247];
  • after the opera, [37];
  • after a visit, [97].
• Letters, chapter on, [491-505];
  • shorter, chapter on, [448-491].
  • See also specific subjects, e.g.: Beginning a letter; Condolence, letters of; Address on envelopes.
• Liquid food, [573-574].
• Little dinner, [228-229].
• Livery of footmen, [143-146];
  • mourning, [406].
• Living alone by young girls or women, [289], [294].
• Love letters, [502-504].
• Luncheon, chapter on, [258-249];
  • introductions at, [9-10], [12];
  • invitations to, [120], [125-126], [238-239];
  • bridesmaids, [238-239].
• Maid of honor at a wedding, [328], [330], [339], [351], [353], [358-360].
• Management of servants, [155-159].
• Manners, [530-539];
  • definition of, [2];
  • in clubs, [518-520];
  • at home, [587-592];
  • at the table, [371-586];
  • at the theater, [40-43];
  • of Americans abroad, [604-607], [612-613];
  • of a hostess, [218-219].
• Married couples. See: Husband and wife; young couples.
• Married woman, how to introduce, [6];
  • how to shake hands with, [20];
  • name of, [458-459];
  • visiting card of, [77].
  • See also: Husband and wife.
• Mayor, close of letter to, [487];
  • how to address, [486];
  • how to announce as a guest, [214];
  • how to introduce, [487].
• Meeting, at church, [19-20];
  • in the Street, [20].
• Men and women, relations between, [292-293], [502-303], [505-509].
• Menus. See: Beverages; Food.
• Menu cards, [210].
• Military officer, visiting card of, [78].
• Minister Plenipotentiary, [215], [488-489].
• Mr. and Mrs. in conversation, [54];
  • Money, conversation about, [506];
  • and social position, [71-72], [410].
• Motoring, [128], [293], [614-615].
• Mourners, how to address, [399].
• Mourning, [399-406];
  • bridesmaid in, [329];
  • for funeral, [392-393];
  • stationery, [453].
• Moving pictures, [40], [293].
• Music at a ball, [225];
  • at a dinner, [250], [251];
  • at a funeral, [396];
  • at a wedding, [315-316], [338-342], [357-359].
• Musicale, [124].
• Names, [54], [76-78], [458-459], [508].
• Napkin ring, [204].
• Napkins, [220-221], [241], [444], [575].
• National anthem, [23].
• Neighbors, new, afternoon tea in honor of, [168].
  • See also: Strangers, [168].
• Newspapers, [304], [390], [417], [509].
• "Not at home," [84-86].
• Note of apology, [462-463].
• Nurse, [152-153].
• Office buildings, etiquette in, [22].
• Open air gatherings, [46].
• Opera, [12], [20], [310], [546-547], [569];
  • chapter on, [33-37].
• Orange blossoms at second marriage, [375].
• P.P.C. cards, [79].
• Packages, [29].
• Pall bearers, [391-392], [569].
• Paris clothes, [353], [539-561].
• Parlor maid, [148].
• Party calls, [81].
• Parties, attendance of a lady at, [32];
  • kissing at, [96];
  • non-return of, [71];
  • afternoon, chapter on, [165-176];
  • children's, [580-581];
  • engaged couples, [306-307];
  • opera, [35];
  • theater, [38], [43].
  • See also: House party.
• Passing of colors, removal of hat at, [23].
• Payment, etiquette of, [31].
  • See also: Debts.
• Peas, how to eat, [573].
• Personal letters, [455].
• Persons of rank. See: Rank, persons of.
• Pew cards, [102-103], [356].
• Photographs of engaged couples in newspapers, [304].
• Picnics, [34], [124], [128].
• Pits, management of, at table, [584].
• Place cards, [128], [210].
• Plates, [200], [202-204], [242].
• Politeness to servants, [153-154].
• Political clubs, [517].
• Politics, etiquette of, [530-539].
• Position in the community, [410];
  • chapter on, [65-72].
• Precedence, [40], [204-205], [214-215], [360-361].
• Presentation at court, [609-610].
• "Present," when used in introductions, [4].
• President of the United States,
  • close of letter to, [456], [487], [490];
  • as a guest, [214], [430];
  • how to address, [486];
  • introduction of and to, [4], [5], [487].
• Priest, [488-489].
• Private affairs, conversation about, [592].
• Private car, guests on, [439].
• Private secretary, [139].
• Pronunciation, [62-64].
• Public places, [96], [307],
  • chapter on, [28-34].
• Punctuality, [46], [219-220].
• Pusher, nursery, [571].[573].
• Rabbi, [488-489].
• Rank, persons of,
  • how to announce as guests, [214-215];
  • how to address, [486], [488];
  • how to introduce, [487], [489];
  • close of letter to, [487-489].
• Reading at table, [591].
• Ready-to-wear clothes, [557], [562].
• Receptions, [10], [119], [165], [168].
• Recommendation, letters of, [479-481].
• Referring to husband or wife in conversation, [54].
• Regard for others, rules of, [34].
• Registering at a hotel, [346], [596-597].
• Rehearsal of a wedding, [338-342].
• Restaurants,
  • clothes in, [556], [569];
  • dinner in before the theater, [38];
  • engaged couples in, [310];
  • headdress in, [546];
  • payment in, [32];
  • rising in to greet a lady, [23];
  • young girl in, [293].
• Riding clothes, [550-552].
• Rings, [544], [567];
  • engagement, [302-303], [311];
  • wedding, [343], [346], [359].
• Rising,
  • to a lady, [22-23];
  • to relatives, [587];
  • from table, [577].
• Royalty,
  • how to address, [610];
  • letters to, [490];
  • presentation to, [4], [609-610].
• Salutations, [461];
  • chapter on, [22-27].
• Seating,
  • at an afternoon tea, [168], [170];
  • at a ball supper, [256];
  • in drawing-room, [94-95];
  • at a formal dinner, [162], [178-179], [196], [210-212];
  • at a funeral in church, [409];
  • at an informal dinner, [229];
  • in an opera box, [35-36];
  • at a wedding in church, [354-357];
  • in a steamer dining-salon, [599-600];
  • at the theater, [40-41];
  • in vehicles, [30-31];
  • of children at table, [575].
• Second marriage, [107-108], [375-376].
• Secretary, [138-140], [178].
• Self-introduction, [12], [602].
• Senator, [5], [214], [486-487].
• Servants, [135-138], [141-164];
  • attitude to, [438-439], [510];
  • at formal dinner, [184];
  • in country house, [420-421], [425-427].
• Service,
  • in country house guest room, [425-427];
  • in the well-appointed house, [135-164];
  • dinner, [200-209], [236-237].
• Serving table, [206-207].
• Serving tea, [168-171], [173-174].
• Setting the table, [194-200], [591].
• Shaking hands, [20-21];
  • at an afternoon tea, [167];
  • at a formal dinner, [215];
  • on a visit, [93];
  • at a wedding, [362-363];
  • when introduced, [7-8], [9], [12].
• Shirt, [143], [334], [568].
• Shirt studs, [144], [152], [567].
• Shirt waist, [151], [549], [556].
• Shoes, [333], [549], [555], [558], [564], [566], [568].
• Shops, etiquette in, [33].
• Sickness. See: Invalids.
• Signature of a letter, [458-459].
• Silk hat, [564], [566].
• Silver, [198-199].
• Sitting up with the deceased, [393].
• Sitting down at the table, [577].
• Skirt, [151], [548], [549], [552], [556], [558].
• Slang, [62].
• Sleeping arrangements in country house, [413].
• Slippers, [549], [555].
• Smart society, [2].
• Smoking, [22], [28], [47], [209], [223-224], [530], [594].
• Social letters, [455-456], [461-463].
• Social position. See: Position in the community.
• Society, best,
  • chapter on, [1-3];
  • definition of, [3];
  • smart, [2].
• Speech, [64].
• Speaking to a lady, [22-23].
• Spoon, [197];
  • Use of, [571], [573].
• Sports clothes, [548].
• Sports clubs, [517].
• Stag dinner, [230].
• Stand-up luncheons, [248], [249].
• Steamer etiquette, [598-603].
• Stores, etiquette in, [27], [33].
• Story telling, [50].
• Strangers,
  • cards left with, [83];
  • invitations for, [117], [254];
  • social position of, [67-70];
  • visits, [70-71], [83], [90];
  • at afternoon tea, [170].
• Street, chapter on the, [28-34].
• Street car etiquette, [23-24].
• Street clothes, [548].
• Subscription dances, [272-275].
• Summer dress, [549], [556].
• Sunburn, dress for women who mind, [549-550].
• Superscription in letters, [459], [460].
• Supper, [249];
  • at a ball, [255-257];
  • at a cabaret, [293];
  • after theater, [45].
• Table,
  • dinner, [191], [591];
  • luncheon, [240-242];
  • supper, [249];
  • tea, [167-174].
• Table furnishings, [184], [591];
  • hostess, [169-170];
  • manners, [220-224], [571-586];
  • setting, [180-181], [194-200], [591].
• Tail Coat, [35].
• Taking leave. See: Leave taking.
• Tea gown, [547].
• Teas,
  • chapter on, [165-176];
  • clothes for, [165], [547], [556];
  • invitations to, [119], [124];
  • bachelor's, [292];
  • children's, [579-580].
• Telephone, invitation by, [128-130], [238-239], [380].
• Tennis, [128].
• Thanks, cards of, [474];
  • letters of, [463], [475].
• Theater, [31], [38-46], [310], [547], [569], [611-612].
• Third person in correspondence, [478-479].
• Tickets for theater, opera, etc., [39-40], [43].
• Tie, gentleman's, [35], [143-144], [246], [333-334], [363], [565-566].
• Tips, in a hotel, [597];
  • to servants, [426-427];
  • on steamboats, [602-603].
• Titled foreigners, [215], [490], [607-608].
• Titles, [5], [486-489];
  • on visiting cards, [76-78].
• Topics of conversation, [51], [55-56].
• Train card, [105].
• Train of a dress, [547].
• Trains, railway, [31], [593-596], [615].
• Traveling, chapter on, [593-616].
  • See also specific subjects, e.g.: Young girl, traveling of.
• Traveling clothes, [351], [559].
• Trousers, [143], [246], [332], [334], [564-565], [567], [569].
• Trousseau, [323-327], [332-333].
• Tuxedo, [42], [564-565], [569], [603].
• Uniforms of servants, [148-150].
• Ushers, at a ball, [265];
  • at a wedding, [331], [333-335], [337], [339-340], [342], [354-356], [368], [569].
• Valet, [143], [152], [425-426], [441-442], [608].
• Vegetables, how to eat, [575].
• Vehicles, [30-31];
  • at a formal dinner, [162-163], [212];
  • at a funeral, [395-396];
  • at the opera, [37];
  • at the theater, [39];
  • at a wedding, [353-361].
• Veil, [246], [549];
  • bridal, [350-351];
  • mourning, [399-401].
• Vice-President of the United States,
  • close of letter to, [487], [490];
  • how to address, [486];
  • how to announce as a guest, [214];
  • how to introduce, [487].
• Visits, [36], [70-71], [302-303], [310];
  • chapter on, [73-97].
  • See also specific subjects, e.g.: Engaged couples, visits of.
• Visiting cards. See: Cards.
• Vulgar woman, the, [544].[345].
• Waistcoat, [35], [143], [246], [333], [563], [565-566].
• Walking, across a ballroom, [261-262];
  • down the aisle of a theater, [40];
  • with a lady, [28].
• Watch chain, [567].
• Wealth, display of, [506].
• Wedding anniversaries, [110], [378-379];
  • announcements, [106-107];
  • breakfast, [364-368];
  • ceremony, [357-358];
  • day, chapter on, [345-379];
  • dress, [350-351];
  • expenses, [317], [329], [342-344], [376-378];
  • list, [313-314],
  • pictures, [352];
  • preparations, [312-344]; [347-352];
  • presents, [79], [319-323], [464-467];
  • trip, [342-343], [345-346].
• Weddings, [19], [20];
  • clothes for, [328-330], [332-334], [556], [569-570];
  • guest rooms at, [413];
  • invitations to, [98-109], [111]; [312-314].
  • See also: Bride; Bridegroom; and other specific subjects.
• White blossoms at second marriage, [375].
• Widow, [77], [107], [375], [402].
• Wife. See: Husband and wife.
• Woman's clubs, [514], [517-318].
• Words and phrases, correct usage of, [58-62].
• Writing paper, [449-453].
• Written invitations, [120].[121], [124].[127].
• Yacht, guests on, [439].
• Young couples, [71], [471].
• Young girl, [288-298];
  • guest room for, [413];
  • letters of, [502-503];
  • traveling of, [595-596], [612-613].
• Young person, introduction of to older, [4];
  • greetings of to older, [21].