Influence of Women.
The wonderful influence of women of culture and fashion, with their “happy ways of doing things” in the political, as well as the social world, is as great now in Washington as it ever was in Paris, in the palmiest days of the Imperial Salon.
The graces and the courtesies of life are in their hands. It is women who create society. It is women from whom etiquette is learned, not from association with men. The height of a stage of civilization can always be measured by the amount of deference paid to woman. The culture of a particular man can be gauged by his manner when in the company of ladies.
Primitive man made women do all the hard work of life, bear all the burdens, eat of the leavings, and be the servants of the tribe.
Civilized man, on the other hand, gives precedence to woman in every particular. He serves her first, he gives her places of comfort and safety, he rises to assist her at every opportunity, and we measure his culture by sins of omission, or commission, along this line.
Thus, all these small observances not only conduce to the comfort of woman, but they refine and do away with the rough and selfish side of man’s nature, for without this refining contact with gentle womanhood, a man will never lose the innate roughness with which nature has endowed him.
It is women, as before said, who create etiquette, and Burke tells us that “manners are of more importance than laws.” A fine manner is the “open sesame” that admits us to the audience chamber of the world. It is the magic wand at whose touch all barriers dissolve.