How to Order Thyself Sitting at the Table

O children, give earyour duties to learn,
How at the tableyou may yourselves govérn.
Presume not too high,I say, in no case;
In sitting down,to thy betters give place.
Suffer each manfirst servéd to be;
For that is a pointof good courtesy.
When they are served,then pause a space,
For that is a signof nurture and grace.
Salt with thy knifethen reach and take,
The bread cut fair,and do not it break.
Thy spoon with pottagetoo full do not fill,
For [de]filing the cloth,if thou fortune to spill.
For rudeness it isthy pottage to sup,
Or speech to any,his head in the cup.
Thy knife see be sharpto cut fair thy meat,
Thy mouth not too fullwhen thou dost eat;
Not smacking thy lips,as commonly do hogs,
Nor gnawing the bonesas it were dogs;
Such rudeness abhor,such beastliness fly,
At the table behavethyself mannerly.
Thy fingers see cleanthat thou ever keep,
Having a napkinthereon them to wipe;
Thy mouth therewithclean do thou make,
The cup to drinkin hand if thou take,
Let not thy tongueat the table walk,
And of no matterneither reason nor talk.
Temper thy tongueand belly alway,
For “measure is treasure,”the proverb doth say,
And measure in all thingsis to be used;
What is without measureought to be refused.
For silence keepingthou shalt not be shent,[[351]]
Whereas thy speechmay cause thee repent.
Both speech and silenceare commendáble,
But silence is meetestin a child at the table.
And Cato doth say,that “in old and young
The first of virtueis to keep thy tongue.”
Pick not thy teethat the table sitting,
Nor use at thy meatovermuch spitting;
This rudeness of youthis to be abhorred;
Thyself mannerlybehave at the board.
If occasion of laughterat the table thou see,
Beware that thou usethe same moderately.
Of good manners learnso much as thou can;
It will thee preferwhen thou art a man.
Aristotle, the philosopher,this worthy saying writ,
That “manners in a child aremore requisite
Than playing on instrumentsand other vain pleasure;
For virtuous mannersis a most precious treasure.”
Let not this sayingin no wise thee offend,
For playing of instrumentshe doth not discommend,
But doth grant themfor a child necessary,
Yet manners much more,see here he doth vary.
Refuse not his counsel,nor his words despise;
To virtue and knowledgeby them may’st thou rise.