§ 109
No egoistic-social experience, save when all the circumstances are such as produce truly marital conditions, ever has the same transcendent value as when the erotic within the married state is raised to the nth power. Not does any of life’s rewards in the egoistic-social sphere compensate for the loss of the erotic consummations of the binary life.
The married pair can be too sexual in the strictly physical sense, they can leave undeveloped the more complicated organism of psychic erotism—but they cannot be too erotic in the sense in which I have used this term, for erotism, in the sense I use it, is psychically controlled sex, controlled not as in the majority of cases, by repression and inhibition, but by rational modes of expression.