§ 113
All erotologists, on the general principle of altruism and mutuality, sympathy and responsiveness, have advocated simultaneity of acme, without realizing its mental autoerotism.
This book unqualifiedly recommends succession as infinitely superior to simultaneity. Only by the arrangement of the love episode in such a way that in every love episode the husband’s erotic acme follows, even after the lapse of several minutes, the wife’s, can the spiritually deleterious results of mentally autoerotic simultaneity be avoided. Only thus can the most inexpressible joy be experienced by both husband and wife. Only thus can they be said to be, erotically, perfectly mated.
For there is a peculiarly conscious human joy in feeling, in at least comparative calmness, the ineffable bliss of just one other human being, a joy of which no lover can ever, in wildest phantasy, dream, a joy that mere simultaneity can never give.
Marital success demands succession.