§ 139
It may be argued that the woman’s erotic acme is conditioned by the prior or simultaneous emergence of the man’s. But this argument is the working out of a defence mechanism coming from the unconscious of the man. He makes this statement not because it is true but because, from an autoerotic phantasy, he wishes it were true.
The statement, too, may be sincerely made by the woman, but, if it is, it is because she has heard him make it or correctly inferred from his unconscious actions its tacit existence in his mind. It is shown in another place that there is always in the man’s unconscious a phantasy that his part in the love episode will produce his wife’s erotic acme at once and without effort on his part. This phantasy amounts in some cases to an hallucination.