§ 68
Quite as obviously if the wife shows a greater control over the erotic situation than the husband, a control through expression, he will be unconsciously repelled by this unnatural factor in the situation, no matter how much pleased he may be consciously by the rich, warm femininity he has discovered in her.
It is this positive or expressive control of the erotic factor which gives to some women the reputation of being designing, gives them the appearance of being more erotic than the husband or lover, and in some instances repels the man.
The possibility of greater erotic control on the part of the woman than the man possesses should be a provoking thought to all husbands who are overhasty in their handling of the love episode.
Any husband controls his wife erotically, if he actually does, only by means of controlling himself. At minimum his control of himself is just enough to secure his wife’s erotic acme preceding or at least synchronizing with his own. That is the one and only way by which he can attain and maintain marital success.