§ 86
In phantasying, in his own ecstasy, the complete surrender of the woman (cf. [§ 158]), a man may also phantasy her being exhausted, dry like an eaten orange, or, like a flower, drained of its honey by a bee; not realizing that the beginning of a woman’s love is only the beginning of an infinite growth, which he alone is able to develop for himself, and which no other man can develop for him—that, in short, a man who deserts one woman after another is simply showing an essentially perverted appetite.
What any one of these tasted and rejected women might later be developed into, in the shape of a full-blooded rich, warm femininity, he has not the intelligence to conceive. Possibly the cynical roué might say—look at the older women, are many of them attractive? To which we should reply no, but the reason they are not is simply that they were not properly loved into a state of full erotic development, in which they would have preserved the attractiveness of youth.