§ 91
But after the sexual synthesis of puberty the desires are not only much more insistent but much more definite and specific. Still they can be and are repeatedly repressed by many men and most women. That they can be so repressed is the reason why asceticism has been so emphasized by many religions. The religious views of many people render uncomfortable the actual emergence, into consciousness, of any sexual desires whatever.
If the training of the individual has not been such as to render conscious the manifestation of the sex desire, it then does not appear as a tumescence in the genital region, in many cases, but as a swelling or a pain, or a hardness somewhere else, or as an emotion of disappointment, disgust or hate. Some deeply religious people seem to prefer these emotions, in spite of their destructive nature, to the constructive emotions of truly erotic love.
And we are impressed with the irony of fate which condemns innocent people to accept an unwholesome in place of a wholesome emotion, and makes some people think they are justified in telling others what emotions they shall have.