What then grieueth you in this action?Antipophora. Is it that hee was slaine? Consider with your selfe it was in his princes seruice, his death was thereby the more honourable, for in so doing, he died as a man, as a souldiour, as a Gentleman.Auxesis. Yea, but you shall neuer, you say, see him more? True in deed,Antipophora. but what of that? Is this death now greater then his absence before? Yes forsooth it is indeede, and whie? because you had hope then to see him againe, which by this means is taken away? verie well. You did then while he was liuing recomfort your selfe with hope, content your selfe nowe with necessitie, because it must needes be so, and you can no wayes amend it. Is not this an ende sufficient to determine all sorrowes?Erotema. If you weepe, lament, crie out, and become grieued,Synonymia. requisite were it the same should returne to some ende, that all your care, sorrow, griefe,Brachiologia. lamentation, or what els should not appeare fruitles, that the intendment and determination thereof shoulde be to some speciall purpose. See you then, herein is no supply, the effects are bereft, the end taken away.Asindeton. Be not then so fond, as to bedew that with your teares,Epiphonema. wherunto belongeth neither redresse, nor mean of recouerie. Who is he that would be so mad, as to crie out vnto him of whom he might be assured neuer to obtaine remedie? by cunning art beasts we see,Paradigma. though they be most fierce, are tamed, a meane is found wherewith to breake the Marble, the Adamant howe hard soeuer it be, may by deuises be mollified: Onely death is of such force as no wayes can be conuinced.
At the least wise, if neither of these argumentes might mooue you to suppresse your exceeding sorrowes,Merismus. you must finally consider that wee are Christians, and by the benefite of this corporall death,Antithesis. doe make exchaunge for an vncorrupted life, that the withdrawing vs from this vile earthly bodie of Clay and filth, is a commutation to a sacred and heauenlie progression, and that wee haue nothing left vnto vs, in all the trauelles, cares, disquiets, and heauie turmoyles of this wearisome liuing whereof to reioyce vs, but the expectation wee haue of happines and euer flourishing gladnesse. Suppose the Ghost of your husbandeProcatalepsis. were heere present to see you in all this extremitie, what thinke you woulde hee say? Howe much disordered imagine you woulde hee thinke you to bee in your affections?
And were it not that so manie coastes had seuered him both by lande and seas peraduenture wearied with your bitter out cries in the conceited image and shape of death, you might in apparance heare him, in these like speaches accusing and rebuking such your distemperate actions.Prosopopœia. And with breathing spirit to crie out vnto you saying, What is it you goe about? what meane you by teares to search out for a thing so irrecuperable. Whie torment you your youthful yeares, with such vnprofitable,Metanoia. or rather as I may call it, desperate kinde of mournings? whie with such vniust complaints accuse you Fortune, & so often doe appeale death, and destinie of so hainous trespasse? Is it for that you enuie my happie state, so soone transported from this vntowarde soile, to a more prosperous felicitie? thus credit mee, and in this sorte (were it possible he coulde speake to you) woulde hee accuse you, in which consideration, were there not iust cause thinke you (of such intemperance)Erotema. whie you shoulde be greatlie ashamed? Beleeue mee good Cosin, there is neither profite or liking at all, of this bitter continuance reaped, you haue alreadie waded sufficientlie in your teares,Allegoria. you haue mourned for him in earnest loue as beseemed a wife, it is nowe high time you bee after all this comforted. Thinke that the greatest storme is by time at length ouerblowne, superfluitie of coales encreaseth rather heate then flame, the ardencie of affection, with vehemencie sufficient may be expressed, though not by extremitie enforced. What shuld I say vnto you?Paradigma. You may not as other foolish creatures, that are neither gouerned by wit, nor ordered by discretion, make your selfe a spectacle to the world, but rather with such temperanceParenthesis. (for euen in this extremitie of sorrow, is also planted a rare patern of modestie) seek in such maner to demean your selfe, as the lookers on may rather pittie you, by insight of your greate discretion, then in this sorte to tormente your selfe by a needlesse supposition. Much more haue I considered with my self, whereby to satisfie my greeued imaginations,Peroratiō. in which beeing recomforted, and reposed in my secrete thoughtes, I haue deemed it necessarie hereby to imparte the same vnto you, beseeching that as well in regarde of your selfe, as the little pleasure your friendes haue to behoulde you in this straunge kinde of perplexitie, you will enioy the fruites thereof with such sufficient contentment and satisfaction as verie heartilie I doe wish vnto you. And euen so tendring my selfe in all thinges to your curteous and gentle vsage, I doe heartily bid you farewell, S. this of &c.
TOuching these Consolatorie Epistles. It is to bee intended that ouer and besides the examples formerly deliuered, their vse is also in causes of banishment, losse of parentes, goods, or friends, in times of imprisonment, slander, persecution, sicknesse, in miserable olde age, or plagued by disobedience, in ill successe of mariages, in pouertie, and finally in whatsoeuer griefe of minde, trouble, or aduersitie. In each of all which is as I said before, vsed a great efficacie of perswasion for the mittigation of the same, by laying the troubles and vncertain state of the world, with innumerable euils annexed to the turning whéele thereof, the communitie of the mischiefe to all, who though not with the selfe same, yet in some sorte or other are alike disquieted, that the best way to expell the griefe thereof, is by meditation of our estates, the condition wherein we liue, the ineuitable force of that which is befallen vs, which because wee are worldlinges must néedes in like sorte betide vs, howe neare thereby wee may bee drawne in contempte of earthlie vanities, the inticing baites, whereof are enuenomed with so manie and sharpe poysons, that troubles are sent vnto vs from God, to call vs thereby home vnto him, that they are the scourges of our disobedience, that by such meanes wee are discerned to bee his children, that by pacient sufferance, and entertainment of our harmes, we do nearest approch vnto him, who beeing in humane shape on earth, conuersing with men, was persecuted, slaundered, tooke vpon him the most despised estate of pouertie, and by cruell death was constrained, that they who are cloyed with most aboundance, haue therefore the greater charge laide vppon their neckes, and that no one then they are nearest to destruction, the height of whose estate, oftentimes occasioneth their vntimely deaths: finally, that it were bootlesse to striue against their forces, in that we thereby seem ignorant of Gods pleasure and ordinance, who working all things vnto the best, knoweth perchaunce the punishment to be most fittest for vs, wherewith if we were not entangled, we might happilie forgette him, and become carelesse regarders of his high and mightie excellency. So and in such maner may we wade in these actions, whereof hauing now deliuered sufficient, wee will adde hereunto one example more, and therewith of this title conclude.
An Example consolatorie, pleasantly
written to one, who had buried
his olde wife.
THe posting newes hitherwarde of the late decease of my good old mistris your wife, hath made me in the verie going away of mine ague fit, to strain my selfe to greet you by these letters. In the inditing wherof, I manie time praied in my thoughts, that I were as readilie deliuered of this my tertian feuer, as your selfe are in mine opinion deliuered by such meanes of a hateful and verie foule encombrance. I doubt not sir, but you doe nowe take the matter heauilie, being thereby dispossessed as you are of such an intollerable delight, as wherewith you were continually cloied by the nightlie embracements of so vnweldie a carcase. I haue, I must confesse, verie seldome known you for anie thing to mourne, neuerthelesse, if by such meanes you be happily constrained to change countenance, I haue prepared a golden boxe wherein I meane to consecrate all the teares you shed for that accident, to Berecynthia the beldame of the Gods, as a relique of your great kindship and curtesie.
Beleeue mee T. I am sorie that mine ague had not lefte mee, and that I were not nowe in L. with thee, were it but to viewe thy lookes and manlike behauiour, after so harde a bickering and incounter wherein thou was berefte a hearte of golde so daintie, as I promise thee to some graue sober fellowe, might haue become pretie conceited, and a verie sweete pigges nie. Well T. thou must needes loose her, ferendum est quod mutari non possit, bee not sadde I pray thee, wee will finde out a better match wherewith to delghite thee. Thou must consider that it is requisite that all thinges shoulde bee done with indifferencie, shee hath lefte a thousande pounde in goodes, and a C. markes by yeare vnto thee, let that content thee: what though she was not maried a moneth to thee, thou must be a pacient man, her long continuance with so much wealth might peraduenture haue glutted thee. The gods haue become more fauourable to thy young yeares, then thy selfe doest consider of. Shee might I knowe haue liued longer time for age, (for foure skore yeares olde I graunt is nothing) the woman also in verie good plight too, by Saint Margerie: but what of that, wee must, as I saide before, beare with necessitie. I praie God thou beest not ouercome with sorrowe, but thou maist take it quietlie. There bee men in the worlde that are so carelesse of their fortune, and so verie fooles in their wishing, as they coulde content themselues greatlie to bee in the like predicamente with thee: but thou I assure my selfe art of a cleane contrarie opinion, sweare no more good T. I am perswaded alone that it vtterly discontenteth thee. But hearest thou, plaie not the madde man for all that, I will rather comfort thee my self, then that thou shouldest die for sorrow.
One thing greatlie misliketh mee, I heard saie thou tookest an othe vpon her death bed neuer to marie againe? See howe loue may leade mē? Good God it is strange? I promise thee I could hardly be perswaded thou didst so, without I shuld hear thee swear it. Be not so sottish good boy, remēber thy self, and think on the Philosophers words: non nobis solum nati sumus. Thou maist haue a wife man, and become the father of ninetie nine children perchaunce ere thou die. Forsweare thou nothing good T. but building of monasteries and entring into religion, for these my selfe dare vndertake thou neuer wilt nor meantest to doe, I woulde faine talke longer with thee, but I am wearie, and therefore intende to leaue the expectation of the rest, till I fortune to see thee. Fare (as otherwise thou canst not chuse) well, hauing neither olde wife nor feuer, wherewith to encomber thee. At S. this of &c.