One of the myths in marriage is to assume that the Romance is all, or will continue under all conditions.
Business belongs to the realm of fact and deals with tangible substances. It has to do with the practical part of life. It gives us food, clothing, shelter. It furnishes us great problems, exercise for body and mind. It is a great factor in the evolution of man.
One of the myths in marriage is to assume that business and business struggles do not enter into the lives of lovers. The fact is that business occupies much of the time of every honest man and honest woman. It is necessary to life. Without work, romance would cease, the human race would die.
The ideal and the real are interdependent in all phases of human life.
In marriage there is a myth that the twain are one flesh. But the two are two, just as surely as one and one make two, unless neither is worth counting.
It might not be such folly for a woman to trust her happiness to a man, if any man could make any woman happy. But happiness is within the power of the individual alone. Nature intended it to be so.
If a woman were an incompetent, unable to earn or provide for herself, it might be well to leave her finances wholly in the hands of her husband.
But women who have the right to give children to society are capable of taking care of themselves and financing their personal interests.
Mothers should be thus capable.
In marriage we must recognize the individuality in the partnership, just as we must the romance and the facts.