Ruling well his own house. Unless a man has sufficient wisdom, authority, love and firmness, to govern and control his own children he certainly can not be used of God to oversee the church of God.
Lover of good men. His very heart and soul must admire and appreciate and love the good he sees in men.
Just. In his admonitions, corrections and reprovings, he is always just and impartial.
Holy. His heart and life and affections must be pure and holy, free from sin.
Temperate. There are many things from which we are commanded by the Scriptures to abstain. In the use of all things God has given for use he must not be excessive. He must not be excessive in eating, drinking, sleeping, working, talking, sexual relation, etc.
What A Bishop Or Elder Must Not Be.
A bishop must not be given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre, not a brawler, not covetous, not a novice, not self-willed, not soon angry. See 1 Tim. 3:3-6; Titus 1:7.
Must not be given to wine. Not a wine drinker. He is to be an example and abstain from all appearance of evil.
No striker. A good translation from the Greek would render this reviler. He must not strike back with the tongue; in other words, not contentious.
Not greedy of filthy lucre. When man becomes greedy of filthy lucre—loves money—he can be influenced by it and thus be led to favor the rich.