The Etiquette of To-day

by Edith B. Ordway

Abbreviations, [99], [113], [115]
Absent-mindedness, [125]
Acceptances, [112]
Accidents at table, [154]
Accounts for children, [219], [220]
Acknowledgment of wedding gifts, [211]
Addresses on cards, [100];
on envelopes, [60]-[66], [118];
on invitations, [114], [118]
Addressing:
The President of the United States, [62], [63];
Vice President, [63];
Members of the Cabinet, [64];
Ambassadors, [63], [64];
Governors, [63];
Mayors, [63];
The King of England, [64];
Dukes, [65];
The Pope, [65];
Bishops and Archbishops, [65], [66];
strangers, [66], [67];
married women, [67]
Addressing wedding invitations, [118]
After-dinner speeches, [166]
Afternoon tea, [145]
Afternoon teas for the engaged girl, [180]
Allowances for children, [219], [220]
Amusement, places of, [122]-[124], [170]
Anger, [8]
Anniversaries, [40]
Announcement of engagement, [179]-[181];
by newspaper notice, [179];
by personal note, [74]
Announcements: engagement, [74], [179]-[181];
birth, [104], [105];
death, [224], [225];
marriage, [116];
postponements, [119], [120]
Answering Letters, [76]
Apology, [29], [31]
Appearance, personal, [6], [10]
Applauding, [124]
Art of Being a Guest, The, [137]-[144]
"At Home" days, [145], [146]
"At Home" invitations of bridal couple, [116], [117]
Attitude toward strangers, [132], [133], [135]
Balls, [112]
"Bal Poudre" invitations, [112]
Beauty, [10], [15]
Begging pardon, [29], [82], [130]
Behavior in church, [124], [125];
public, [122]-[136]
Best man, duties of, [8], [196]-[199], [201], [205], [208]
Birth announcements, [104], [105]
Birthday anniversaries, [41]
Blank invitation, the, [109], [110]
Bow, the, manner of, [78], [79];
significance of, [80]-[82]
Breakfasts, [148], [149];
dress at, [12], [36];
menu of, [148];
wedding, [204]-[207]
Bridal party:
at rehearsal, [191];
at "showers" and dinners, [181]-[183];
at church, [192]
Bridal procession, formation of, [196], [202], [203];
at a church wedding, [197], [199];
at a home wedding, [202]
Bridal "Showers," 181-[183]
Bridal veil, [190]
Bridegroom's duties at ceremony, [196]-[199];
preparation of a home, [185];
share of expense of wedding, [186];
wedding outfit, [186], [187]
Bridesmaid, duties of a, [8], [196]-[200]
Business acquaintances, [129]
Business cards, [100]
Business, etiquette of, [83], [129]
Business introductions by correspondence, [70]
Business letters, [54], [55], [60]
Business meetings, [123]
Business training of a wife, [23]
Business women, social life of, [171], [172]
Cake:
wedding, [206];
bridal, [207]
Calling upon one person, [93];
a guest, [93]
Calls:
after entertainment, [90], [138];
by men, [92];
first, [94], [95];
formal, [90];
friendly, [90], [93];
obligations of, [91], [138];
upon brides, [94];
clergymen, [94];
government officials in Washington, [94];
newcomers, [94];
people of note, [94];
return of, [90], [95];
time of, [90]
Candles, use of, [151]
Card, The Personal, [96]-[105];
form of, [96], [105];
form of name on, [97], [98];
inscription of, [97]-[100];
titles on, [97], [100], [101];
use of, [102]-[105];
after change of residence, [103];
announcing a birth, [104], [105];
announcing a departure, [104];
leaving, [90], [91], [103];
of sympathy, [104];
of congratulation, [104];
presenting at calls, [91], [95], [102];
when visiting or traveling, [103], [131]
Cards, Place, [152]
Carriages for wedding, [193], [196];
for funeral, [226]
Casual Meetings, [78]-[90]
Chaperon, Duties of the, [169]-[173];
necessity of, [169];
in public, [169], [170];
at calls, [170], [172];
with the engaged couple, [173];
for the débutante, [172];
relations with one's, [172], [173];
at a dancing party, [139], [147]
Character, [7]
Children, Etiquette for, [214]-[223];
and mourning, [222];
and servants, [214], [223];
and visitors, [221], [222];
at the dining table, [217];
in church, [220]
Church, attendance, [143];
behavior in, [124], [125];
of children, [220]
Church weddings, public, [194], [213];
private, [213];
invitations, [114]-[119]
Cleanliness, [14]
Club dinners or receptions, [165], [166]
Club invitations, [111]
Club officers, [165]
Conclusions of letters, [66], [70]
Coffee, service of, [154]
Condolence, letters of, [75], [76];
acknowledgment, [76], [120]
Congratulations, [76]
Conformity to custom, [203]
Congresses, guests at, [167]
Consideration on the part of a guest, [141]-[143]
Convalescence, [45]
Conversation, [16], [48]-[52];
at table, [35], [46]
Correspondence, [52]-[55]
Correspondence cards, [56]
Country, entertainment in the, [161]-[164];
parties, [144], [164]
Country wedding, [117], [212], [213]
Courses at formal dinner, [157], [158]
Courtesy, [2], [3], [4], [5], [18], [19], [20];
to servants, [45], [46], [47], [144];
to nurse and doctor, [45];
to invalids, [44]
Cutlery, arrangement of, [152]
Dancing Parties, [138], [139], [140];
invitations, [109]-[111]
Daylight, use of, [149]
Deaf persons, [32]
Debate, [50], [51]
Débutante and the chaperon, [169], [172]
Decorations for wedding, [192]
Deference to elders, [214]
Dessert, service of, [154], [158]
Dinners, [149]-[158];
announcement of, [155];
choice of guests, [150];
conversation at, [49], [150];
formal, [137], [149];
invitations to, [109], [150];
lighting of, [151];
menu of, [157], [158];
place cards for, [152];
retiring from, [156];
seating guests at, [151], [155], [156];
service of, [152], [153];
table-setting for, [151], [152]
Discipline, [46], [47]
Dress, [11], [36], [112], [128], [134], [140], [186]-[190]
Dress for men:
afternoon, [13], [94];
early breakfast, [13];
formal breakfast, [13];
evening, [14], [156];
at weddings, [14], [186]
Dress for women:
at home, [16];
ball, [13];
church, [12], [189];
dinner, [12], [13], [150], [155], [189];
formal breakfast, [12];
house party, [140];
luncheon, [12];
mourning, [13];
traveling, [130], [141];
visiting, [140];
wedding, [187]-[189];
as business woman, [15];
as hostess, [13];
as housewife, [16];
as milliner, [15]
Driving, [127], [128]
Duties of Host and Hostess, [145]-[168]
Emerson, [iv]
Engaged couple, the:
at a dancing party, [139];
at home, [177];
duties to friends, [178];
in society, [177]-[179];
meeting each other's friends, [178], [179]
Engagement announcements, [179]-[181]
Engagement, The Broken, [183]-[185];
announcement of, [183], [184];
explanation of, [184]
Engagements:
punctuality, [17], [32];
punctiliousness in keeping, [17]
English customs of entertainment, [158], [159]
Engraved Invitation, The, [105]-[121];
stock of, [105], [106];
type of, [106], [107], [108];
size of, [105], [106]
Entering a room, [27]
Entertainment, assisting in, [123], [124];
English customs of, [159];
for guests, [142], [162];
in the country, [163]
Entertainment committees, duties of, [166]
Envelopes, [118];
addressing, [59], [60], [61], [114], [118];
sealing, [59];
stamping, [59]
Ethics, [1]
Etiquette, an art, [2];
the end of, [iii];
the need of, [iii], [2];
The Rewards of, [1]-[5]
Etiquette of Mourning, [224]-[230]
Etiquette of the Marriage Engagement, The, [174]-[193]
Family Etiquette, [20]-[47]
Faults among women, [18]
Fees, [144]
Festivities, rural, [164]
Finger bowls, [37]
First Calls, [94], [95]
Five o'clock tea, [145]
Forms of wedding invitations, [114], [115];
announcements, [115], [116];
reception cards, [116], [117];
bridal "At Home" cards, [116], [117];
personal cards, [96]-[105];
dinner invitations, [109];
reception, [117]; "At Home," 116, [117], [120];
party, [109];
New Year, [121]
Forms of announcements of postponement, [119], [120];
gratitude for sympathy, [120]
Friends, [21], [42]-[44]
General Rules of Conduct, [26]-[33]
Gifts, [40], [41], [42];
engagement, [181], [185];
for "showers," 181-[183];
of bridegroom to bride, [186];
of bridegroom to ushers and bridesmaids, [186];
to servants, [144];
wedding, [210]-[213]
Giving away the bride, [198]
Gloves, [149], [151]
Golden Rule, [2]
Good-night formalities, [28];
at a reception, [138];
dancing party, [140];
dinner, [156]
Graduations, [167], [168]
Greeting guests at a luncheon, [149];
dinner, [156];
reception, [147]
Greetings, [28], [78]-[83]
Guest chamber, [160], [161]
Guest, the art of being a, [137]-[144], [167]
Guest:
at afternoon tea, [137], [138];
a congress, etc., [166], [167];
country house, [159];
dancing party, [138];
reception, [138];
wedding, [195], [196], [201]
Guests, tardiness of, [155]
Handshaking, [80], [82], [86], [87]
Handwriting, [58]
Haughtiness, [11]
Home, founding the, [20]-[26]
Home wedding, the, [201]-[203];
invitations, [115]
Horseback riding, [128], [129]
Hospitality, [145], [165]-[168]
Hotel etiquette, [126], [127], [133]-[136];
dining-room civility, [135]-[136];
dress in, [134]
House parties, [158], [159];
sports at, [163]
Household management, [22]
Host, duties of, [137], [166]-[168]
Hostess, duties of, [127],

[137]
Illness, [44], [45]
Impartiality, [30]
Informality in entertaining, [164]
Ink, [58]
Inscriptions on cards, [97]-[100]
Interruptions, [17], [49]
Introduction, letters of, [70]-[72];
advisability of, for business, [70];
socially, [70], [71];
presentation of, [72];
obligations of, [72]
Introductions, [84]-[89], [148];
at chance meetings, [87];
at a dancing party, [87], [89], [138], [139];
at a dinner, [89], [149];
by a guest, [86];
by a hostess, [86], [90];
discrimination in, [85];
form of, [84];
of a gentleman to a lady, [84], [86], [88];
responses to, [84];
responsibility for, [88];
to one's relatives, [88]
Invitations (See "[Engraved Invitation, The]");
for dinner and dance, [111];
entertainment at club, [111];
formal, [105]-[121];
informal, [74], [112];
of widower, [111], [113];
bachelor, [111], [113];
widower with daughters, [111];
to call, [93];
to "Bal Poudre," 112;
dancing or other parties, [109];
dinners, [109];
luncheons, [108];
receptions, [117], [120], [121];
"showers," 182;
visits, [158];
weddings, [114]-[117];
to meet a guest, [120], [146];
to meet a son, [113];
to mourners, [114]
Invitations, written, [110], [112];
acceptances of, [112];
replies to, [113]
Jewelry, [12]
Kant, [2]
Letter writing, [52];
discretion in, [52], [53]
Letters:
Conclusion of, [66];
of classic literature, [53];
of condolence, [75], [76];
of Introduction, [70]-[72];
of recommendation, [73];
opening those of others, [24];
opening, in company, [29];
Salutation of, [66]-[68];
Signature of, [66]-[69];
to servants, [74];
to strangers, [74];
giving orders, [74]
Letter-heads, [56], [57]
Lifting the hat, [78], [81], [82], [83]
Linen, for dinner, [151];
trousseau, [189], [190]
Luncheon, [148], [149];
menu of, [148];
dress at, [12]
Maid of honor, duties of, [197], [199]
Management of household, [22]
Mannerisms, [17]
Manners, [7]
Marriage, [20], [21];
ceremony, [197], [198];
certificate, [191];
customs, [203];
license, [190];
obligations of, [20]-[26]
Men's cards, [96];
club name on, [100];
form of, [96];
inscription on, [97];
omission of address, [100];
titles on, [97], [100], [101]
Monograms, [56]
Monopoly of conversation, [49];
in friendship, [43], [44]
Morals, [7]
Mourning, dress of, [227]-[229];
Etiquette of, [224]-[230];
periods of, [227];
stationery of, [228]
Music at a wedding, [197], [200], [202]
Neatness, [14], [46], [129]
Neglect of family, [22], [25]
Nichols, Dr. T. L., [9], [title-page]
Non-acknowledgment of courtesies, [18]
Notes, apologetic 55;
congratulatory, [76];
requesting a favor, [55];
social, [57], [58];
sympathetic, [75], [76]
Obligations of letters of introduction, [72]
Old English type, [106]-[108]
Openings, formal business, [165]
Out-door weddings, [212]
Paper for correspondence, [55]
Parents:
consideration for, [217];
consulting, [174];
duties of, [169], [170];
negligence of, [173]
Party invitations, [109], [110], [112]
Penmanship of invitations, [110]
Personal Card, The, [96]-[105]
Personality, [6]-[19]
Picnics, [163], [161]
Place cards, [151], [152]
Plates, service of, [153]
Position, [10];
at table, [33]
Posture, [10], [28]
"P. p. c." cards, [99]
Presentation of letters of introduction, [72]
Presents: birthday, [41];
graduation, [42];
to the ill, [45];
wedding, [40], [210]-[212]
Press notices, of engagements, [179];
funerals, [224], [225]
Privacy, [24]
Professional cards, [100]
Proposal of marriage, [174]-[179];
by letter, [175];
decision of, [175];
spontaneity of, [176];
warding off, [175]
Public Behavior in, [122]-[136]
Public functions, [165]-[168]
Punctuality, [17], [32], [142], [149], [154];
at church, [125];
at funerals, [229];
for children, [217], [218]
Receiving, at an afternoon tea, [147];
dancing party, [147];
débutante party, [147]
Reception, guest at, [137], [138]
Receptions, [137], [147];
business openings, [165];
college or school, [167];
club, [165]
Recommendation, letters of, [73]
Rehearsal for wedding, [191]
Rejection of proposals, [175]
Removing hats in public places, [18], [122]
Replies to business letters, [76];
friendly letters, [76];
letters of introduction, [72];
notes of invitation, [76]
Reply requests, [73]
Reverence, [125]
Riding dress, [128]
"R. s. v. p.," 113
Rural festivities, [164]
Sacrifices, [42], [45]
Salutations, [28];
of letters, [66]-[68]
Savings banks for children, [220]
School behavior, [218], [219]
Script type, [106]-[108]
Sealing Envelopes, [59]
Seating guests at table, [151], [165], [156]
Self-consciousness, [10]
Self-control, [8], [31], [215]
Send-off of bridal couple, [207]
Servants, [73], [144];
and children, [223];
in the country, [161]
Service of a dinner, [152]-[158]
Shaded Roman type, [106]-[108]
"Showers," Bridal, [181]-[183]
Signatures, [66]-[70]
Simplicity in the country, [161]-[164]
Sincerity, [7], [9]
Social introductions by correspondence, [70]-[72]
Social calls of men, [92]-[94]
Social life of the married, [24]
Speech, [7], [16]
Speeches, after-dinner, [166];
at wedding breakfast, [206]
Stamping Envelopes, [59]
Stationery for mourning, [57], [228]
Stock of invitations, [105], [106]
Strangers, addressing, [66], [67];
attitude toward, [122], [124], [130]-[132], [135]
Street etiquette, [129], [132], [133]
Sympathy cards, [120]
Table etiquette, [33]-[40];
for children, [217]
Third-person letters, [74]
Time of wedding, [194]
Tips, [144]
Titles on cards, [97], [100], [101]
Training of servants, [46]
Traveling, [130], [131];
dress, [130];
expense, [131]
Trousseau, [187]-[190]
Type of invitations, [100]-[108]
Unselfishness, [9]
Use of cards, [102]-[106]
Ushers, at wedding, duties of, [195]-[198], [201]
Visits, [158]-[165];
being entertained, [142], [162], [164];
dress, [140];
entertainment, [158], [159], [163], [164];
length, [158];
prolonging, [142]
Wardrobe of bride, [187]-[189];
of bridegroom, [186]
Wedding, anniversaries, [40], [41];
breakfast, [204]-[206];
cake, [206], [207];
fee, [208]-[210];
invitations, [114]-[119];
journey, [208];
preparation for, [185]-[193];
presents, [210]-[212];
reception, [205], [207];
ring, [191];
suit for bridegroom, [186], [187];
wardrobe of bride, [187]-[189]
Whispering, [29], [123]
Withdrawal from society during mourning, [224], [227], [228]
Writing on cards, [99]

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Obvious punctuation errors repaired.

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