I was moving at this time, and did not have a telephone, so was out of touch with her for a few weeks, when one morning I received a letter saying, “We are married.”
At the earliest opportunity, I paid her a call. My first words were, “What happened?”
“Oh,” she exclaimed, “a miracle! One day I woke up and all suffering had ceased. I saw him that evening and he asked me to marry him. We were married in about a week, and I have never seen a more devoted man.”
There is an old saying: “No man is your enemy, no man is your friend, every man is your teacher.”
So one should become impersonal and learn what each man has to teach him, and soon he would learn his lessons and be free.
The woman’s lover was teaching her selfless love, which every man, sooner or later, must learn.
Suffering is not necessary for man’s development; it is the result of violation of spiritual law, but few people seem able to rouse themselves from their “soul sleep” without it. When people are happy, they usually become selfish, and automatically the law of Karma is set in action. Man often suffers loss through lack of appreciation.
I knew a woman who had a very nice husband, but she said often, “I don’t care anything about being married, but that is nothing against my husband. I’m simply not interested in married life.”
She had other interests, and scarcely remembered she had a husband. She only thought of him when she saw him. One day her husband told her he was in love with another woman, and left. She came to me in distress and resentment.
I replied, “It is exactly what you spoke the word for. You said you didn’t care anything about being married, so the subconscious worked to get you unmarried.”