Few men, nevertheless, can have unison in many matters without being a copy of each other, if each follow his natural turn of mind. But in general a person will not wholly follow it. He loves to imitate. We often imitate the same person without perceiving it, and we neglect our own good qualities for the good qualities of others, which generally do not suit us.
I do not pretend, from what I say, that each should so wrap himself up in himself as not to be able to follow example, or to add to his own, useful and serviceable habits, which nature has not given him. Arts and sciences may be proper for the greater part of those who are capable for them. Good manners and politeness are proper for all the world. But, yet acquired qualities should always have a certain agreement and a certain union with our own natural qualities, which they imperceptibly extend and increase. We are elevated to a rank and dignity above ourselves. We are often engaged in a new profession for which nature has not adapted us. All these conditions have each an air which belong to them, but which does not always agree with our natural manner. This change of our fortune often changes our air and our manners, and augments the air of dignity, which is always false when it is too marked, and when it is not united and amalgamated with that which nature has given us. We should unite and blend them together, and thus render them such that they can never be separated.
We should not speak of all subjects in one tone and in the same manner. We do not march at the head of a regiment as we walk on a promenade; and we should use the same style in which we should naturally speak of different things in the same way, with the same difference as we should walk, but always naturally, and as is suitable, either at the head of a regiment or on a promenade. There are some who are not content to abandon the air and manner natural to them to assume those of the rank and dignities to which they have arrived. There are some who assume prematurely the air of the dignities and rank to which they aspire. How many lieutenantgenerals assume to be marshals of France, how many barristers vainly repeat the style of the Chancellor and how many female citizens give themselves the airs of duchesses.
But what we are most often vexed at is that no one knows how to conform his air and manners with his appearance, nor his style and words with his thoughts and sentiments, that every one forgets himself and how far he is insensibly removed from the truth. Nearly every one falls into this fault in some way. No one has an ear sufficiently fine to mark perfectly this kind of cadence.
Thousands of people with good qualities are displeasing; thousands pleasing with far less abilities, and why? Because the first wish to appear to be what they are not, the second are what they appear.
Some of the advantages or disadvantages that we have received from nature please in proportion as we know the air, the style, the manner, the sentiments that coincide with our condition and our appearance, and displease in the proportion they are removed from that point.
INDEX
THE LETTER R PRECEDING A REFERENCE REFERS TO THE REFLECTIONS, THE ROMAN NUMERALS REFER TO THE SUPPLEMENTS.
Ability, [162], [165], [199], [245], [283], [288]. SEE Cleverness
———, Sovereign, [244].
Absence, [276].
Accent, country, [342], [XCIV].
Accidents, [59], [310].
Acquaintances, [426]. SEE FRIENDS.
Acknowledgements, [225].
Actions, [1], [7], [57], [58], [160], [161], [382], [409], [CXX].
Actors, [256].
Admiration, [178], [294], [474].
Adroitness of mind, [R.II].
Adversity, [25].
———— of Friends, [XV].
Advice, [110], [116], [283], [378], [CXVII].
Affairs, [453]
Affectation, [134], [493].
Affections, [232].
Afflictions, [233], [355], [362], [493], [XCVII], [XV].
Age, [222], [405], [LXXIII]. SEE Old Age.
Agreeableness, [255], [R.V].
Agreement, [240].
Air, [399], [495]
— Of a Citizen, [393].
Ambition, [24], [91], [246], [293], [490].
Anger, [XXX].
Application, [41], [243].
Appearances, [64], [166], [199], [256], [302], [431], [457], [R.VII].
—————, Conformity of Manners with, R.7.
Applause, [272].
Approbation, [51], [280].
Artifices, [117], [124], [125], [126], [R.II].
Astonishment, [384].
Avarice, [167], [491], [492].