Inferiors in social position should always wait until their superiors offer the hand, never taking the initiative in this respect. This precaution will sometimes save them the pain of a marked slight.
Words of Salutation.
Verbal greetings ought always to be quiet and respectful; they should never be shouted across streets, nor called when the parties are at any distance from each other. Nicknames should not be used publicly and promiscuously, in short, all possible respect should be paid to the feelings of other persons on public occasions.
The phrases, “Good morning,” “Good evening,” “Good afternoon,” “How do you do?” “How are you?” are the usual forms employed. Sometimes the name of the person addressed is added, thus: “Good morning, Mrs. Smith.”
Replies to these salutations are sometimes simply a bow from a lady to a gentleman, or perhaps a bow and a repetition of his greeting, as: “Good morning, Mr. Jones.” “How do you do,” should be replied to by the same phrase, never, as is often the case with the novice in social arts, by: “I am very well, thank you.” A special inquiry after one’s health, however, as: “How do you do, Mrs. Jones?” followed, after her acknowledgment, by: “How are you?” or, “How is your health?” should receive the response, “I am very well, thank you.” After an acquaintance has been ill, the first inquiry by a friend should be one concerning health. This is a rule that should never be neglected: to do so would be an oversight.
Kissing is a custom which the code of English and American etiquette relegates as much as possible to the privacy of home. A kiss, the outward expression of our closest affection and our warmest love, should never be made a public show whereat the outside world may smile. Hence, the effusive kissing between girls and women at their meeting and their parting, is to be regretted as a specimen, to say the least, of very bad taste on their part. Indiscriminate kissing of children and infants is also objectionable on the score of health. Happily, kisses and embraces among men are never seen in this country, though, in some parts of Europe they are constantly to be observed, both in public and private.
CHICAGO’S WELCOME TO PRESIDENT MCKINLEY—ETIQUETTE OF THE BANQUETING ROOM
