Never address persons by their initials, as: “Mrs. W.,” “Miss C.,” “Mr. D.;” give them instead their full name. Neither should you call young ladies, “Miss Mollie,” or “Miss Jennie;” “Miss Smith,” or, “Miss Brown,” being in much better taste. Their Christian names should only be used to distinguish them from other sisters. Never address people by their Christian names unless very familiarly acquainted. This practice savors of ill-breeding and is often very annoying to the person so addressed.
In speaking of persons who are absent, mention them by their last name, as: “Mrs. Roe,” “Mr. Doe,” unless the intimacy is very great; even then care should be taken not to use their Christian names too freely among persons to whom they may be strangers.
A wife in speaking of her husband should rather say “Mr. Smith,” than “My husband;” but, above all, let her refrain from referring to her liege lord as “he,” as if the whole wide world possessed no other mortal to whom that pronoun was applicable. Husbands should follow the same rules in referring to their wives.
Be careful not to interlard conversation with “sir,” or “ma’am.” In Europe these terms are relegated to the use of the lower classes.
Visiting Cards.
Cards are the sign manual of society. Their use and development belongs only to a high order of civilization. They accompany us, as one writer has justly remarked, all the way from the cradle to the grave. They begin with engraved announcements of the birth of a child, then cards for its christening, and, later on, dainty little cards of invitation for children’s parties, until, in due time, the girl crosses that line
“Where the brook and river meet
Womanhood and childhood sweet,”