How to Order Thyself Sitting at the Table

O children, give earyour duties to learn,
How at the tableyou may yourselves govérn.
Presume not too high,I say, in no case;
In sitting down,to thy betters give place.
Suffer each manfirst servéd to be;
For that is a pointof good courtesy.
When they are served,then pause a space,
For that is a signof nurture and grace.
Salt with thy knifethen reach and take,
The bread cut fair,and do not it break.
Thy spoon with pottagetoo full do not fill,
For [de]filing the cloth,if thou fortune to spill.
For rudeness it isthy pottage to sup,
Or speech to any,his head in the cup.
Thy knife see be sharpto cut fair thy meat,
Thy mouth not too fullwhen thou dost eat;
Not smacking thy lips,as commonly do hogs,
Nor gnawing the bonesas it were dogs;
Such rudeness abhor,such beastliness fly,
At the table behavethyself mannerly.
Thy fingers see cleanthat thou ever keep,
Having a napkinthereon them to wipe;
Thy mouth therewithclean do thou make,
The cup to drinkin hand if thou take,
Let not thy tongueat the table walk,
And of no matterneither reason nor talk.
Temper thy tongueand belly alway,
For “measure is treasure,”the proverb doth say,
And measure in all thingsis to be used;
What is without measureought to be refused.
For silence keepingthou shalt not be shent,[[351]]
Whereas thy speechmay cause thee repent.
Both speech and silenceare commendáble,
But silence is meetestin a child at the table.
And Cato doth say,that “in old and young
The first of virtueis to keep thy tongue.”
Pick not thy teethat the table sitting,
Nor use at thy meatovermuch spitting;
This rudeness of youthis to be abhorred;
Thyself mannerlybehave at the board.
If occasion of laughterat the table thou see,
Beware that thou usethe same moderately.
Of good manners learnso much as thou can;
It will thee preferwhen thou art a man.
Aristotle, the philosopher,this worthy saying writ,
That “manners in a child aremore requisite
Than playing on instrumentsand other vain pleasure;
For virtuous mannersis a most precious treasure.”
Let not this sayingin no wise thee offend,
For playing of instrumentshe doth not discommend,
But doth grant themfor a child necessary,
Yet manners much more,see here he doth vary.
Refuse not his counsel,nor his words despise;
To virtue and knowledgeby them may’st thou rise.

How to Order Thyself in the Church

When to the churchthou shalt repair,
Kneeling or standing,to God make thee prayer.
All worldly mattersfrom thy mind set apart,
Earnestly praying,to God lift up thy heart.
A contrite heartHe will not despise,
Which He doth counta sweet sacrifice.
To Him thy sinsshow and confess,
Asking for themgrace and forgiveness.
He is the physicianthat knoweth thy sore,
And can to healthagain thee restore.
Ask then in faith,not doubting to have;
The things ye desire,ye shall them receive;
So they be lawfulof God to require,
He will thee hearand grant thy desire.
More merciful He isthan pen can express,
The author and giverhere of all goodness.
“All ye that labourand burdenéd be,
I will you refreshin coming to Me.”
These are Christ’s words,the Scripture is plain,
Spoken to all suchas here suffer pain.
Our wills to His wordthen let us frame,
The heavenly habitationthereby we may claim.
In the church comelythyself do behave,
In usage sober,thy countenance grave.
While you be there,talk of no matter,
Nor one with anotherwhisper nor chatter.
Reverently thyselforder alway,
When to the churchthou shalt come to pray.
Each thing hath his time,consider the place,
For that is a tokenof virtue and grace.
The Lord doth call itthe house of prayer,
And not to be usedas is a fair.

[This is followed by a series of moral instructions, omitted partly because they do not primarily belong in this book, and partly for lack of space. They are entitled:—

The Fruits of Gaming, Virtue, and Learning (sic).

How to Behave thyself in Talking with any Man.

How to Order thyself, being sent of Message.

Against Anger, Envy and Malice.

The Fruits of Charity, Love and Patience.