They may be left in person, or sent upon departure from city or winter or summer resort. They are rarely used in brief visits, and should only be used at the close of a season.
Care should be exercised in sending them, as an oversight in so doing may cause the loss of good friends.
PAGES AT WEDDINGS. At the wedding, if pages are present, they are usually dressed in satin court costumes, and carry the bride's train.
PALL-BEARERS. It is not good taste to ask relatives to be pall-bearers. The usual number is six to eight elderly men for elderly person, and of young men for a young man. Six young women in white would be a suitable number to act as pall-bearers for a young woman.
Pall-bearers should be asked either by note or by a representative of the head of the family of the deceased.
The pall-bearers assemble at the house at the appointed hour, and there take the carriages reserved for them. They disperse after the church service.
Except in the case of young women, carriages are not sent to bring pall-bearers to the house.
CALLS. After accepting an invitation to act as a pall-bearer, a man should call at the house of the bereaved and leave his card.
A few days after the funeral he should call again and leave his card. If he wishes, he may simply ask at the door after the women of the family.
DRESS. The pall-bearers wear black frock coat, trousers, and waistcoat, a black silk hat with a mourning band, black shoes, and black kid gloves. The linen should be white