§ 64
From the earliest ages seers and poets have glorified Love. The Bible says God is Love. Love as the perfect erotic control of the wife by the husband will be a strange concept to some minds that have been accustomed to the theory that woman is the Queen of Love, and to the ideas of men brought up under the Madonna influence.
This control is indeed the opposite of the attitude that many husbands have adopted (or in which they have been trained) toward their wives, to whom they act as they would toward idealized mothers, not of their own children, but of themselves.
A conviction derived from intimate knowledge of the marital relations of many people forces the conclusion that this current attitude not only is a false one, but is also one that gradually renders a husband impotent to take the part which a true male should take, in the highest type of human mating.
Love is the work of art of an entire lifetime. The calf love of the adolescent, the adoration of the betrothed and the first passionate outburst of the honeymoon are but preludes or overtures to an opera or drama that should continue as long as the two partners live together, and in which the husband is the protagonist.
§ 65
To denote the highest type of special scientific student of the art of love, the term erotologist is suggested in preference to the word sexologist, which would imply the study of only the physical side of sex.
If a modern erotologist can tell us that husbands using toward their wives one form of behaviour are themselves unhappy, and have too many children, or too few, we should certainly be broad-minded enough to admit that the chances are, we ourselves shall be unhappy if we do the same things in the same way.
If the erotologist tells us that a million husbands have used a certain technique in their erotic lives and have become supremely happy, and have had just as many healthy children as they wanted and no more, we should certainly be wise, if we could find out what was the felicitous technique of the happy million. If we saw their wives retaining their youth and beauty and vivacity, and being both loving wives and proud grandmothers at the same time, we should not let envy of these men inspire us with hatred and prejudice enough to say that their methods are iniquitous, and not mentioned in the Bible; but we should inquire exactly what these husbands did, to keep their wives and themselves so young and happy.
We should at the present day inquire mostly in vain. A good part of the million do not themselves know what they do that is different from the practice of the other millions. They just love their wives and them alone.