§ 195
The boy of five or less has no means of knowing that his mother has any sexual needs, jealous though he may be of his father. The same boy when a man of thirty, if he keep the same childish viewpoint that women of the angel type are as angelically sexless as his mother was to him, will, unless he picks out a woman of the other type for a wife, which is, of course, exceedingly rare, never be wholly free from inhibitions against the full development of the true love episode with his wife. Regarding the prostitute as of another caste, he thus avoids with her alone the inhibitions caused by his childish separation of all women into two diametrically opposed castes.
It is obvious that this early-formed association of mother (and of course, later, wife) with absence of sexual interests or even instincts may in some men be a large factor in causing the repression of the majority of the components of the love episode. One component, however, alone, is impossible for the man to repress, though he may later find to his supreme satisfaction that he can control it and retard it; namely, the final relaxation of all his erotic tension.
If he continues love episodes with his wife and has a fixed but unconscious idea that with a wife all varieties of preliminary love actions, in brief, every component but the one to him absolutely essential component of dropping his burden of erotic tension,—which by the way he might just as well drop elsewhere—are actions more appropriate in a brothel than in a home, he will tend more and more to avoid with his wife all but the essential, as he virtually conceives it.