1. Son, if thou placest thy peace with any person, for the sake of thy contentment in his company, thou shall be unsettled and entangled:
But if thou hast recourse to the everliving and subsisting Truth, thou shalt not be grieved when a friend departs or dies.
In me the love of thy friend must stand; and for me is he to be loved, whoever he be, who appears to thee good, and is very dear to thee in this life.
Without me no friendship is of any strength, nor will be durable; nor is that love true and pure of which I am not the author.
Thou oughtest to be so far mortified to such affections of persons beloved, as to wish (for as much as appertains to thee) to be without any company of man.
By so much the more does a man draw nigh to God, by how much the farther he withdraws himself from all earthly comfort.
So much the higher he ascends into God, by how much the lower he descends into himself, and by how much the meaner he esteems himself.
2. But he that attributes any thing of good to himself, stops the grace of God from coming into him; for the grace of the Holy Ghost ever seeks an humble heart.
If thou couldst perfectly annihilate thyself, and cast out from thyself all created love, then should I flow into thee with abundance of grace.