List of Tests
| CHAPTER | PAGE | ||
| II. | 1. | What Is Your Expectancy of Marriage? | [35] |
| III. | 2. | Are You Old Enough to Marry? | [44] |
| III. | 3. | Are You Grown Up Emotionally? | [44] |
| IV. | 4. | Are You Really in Love? | [52] |
| VI. | 5. | Are You Warm or Cool by Nature? | [72] |
| VII. | 6. | Do You Have a Negative or Positive Personality? | [81] |
| VIII. | 7. | What Traits to Look for in Mates (check list) | [87] |
| X. | 8. | Ten Basic Background Questions | [100] |
| XI. | 9. | Sociability | [107] |
| XI. | 10. | Conformity | [108] |
| XI. | 11. | Tranquillity | [109] |
| XI. | 12. | Dependability | [110] |
| XI. | 13. | Stability | [111] |
| XI. | 14. | Standards and Ideals | [112] |
| XI. | 15. | Steadiness | [113] |
| XI. | 16. | Flexibility | [114] |
| XI. | 17. | Seriousness | [114] |
| XI. | 18. | Family Background | [115] |
| XI. | 19. | Prediction of Individual Marital Happiness (Composite) | [116] |
| XII. | 20. | Do You Match? | [127] |
| XII. | 21. | Are You Well Mated? | [136] |
| XIV. | 22. | Are You Too Jealous? | [154] |
| XV. | 23. | Is the Mate a Neurotic? | [163] |
| Appendix A. Books You May Wish to Read | [206] | ||
| Appendix B. Marriage Counseling Agencies | [211] | ||
Foreword
As far as we know this is the first time anyone has written a book attempting to put mate selection on a sensible basis, despite the fact that sooner or later almost everybody selects one.
A good many people resent the idea of an outsider telling them how they should pick a mate. They think it smacks of meddling. Marriage is something sacred and personal. It should not be done according to rules. We heartily sympathize.
Unfortunately, however, marriages are not made in Heaven. Usually people marry by hunch or impulse ... or because their parents think it is a good match ... or because they get themselves so deeply involved romantically that marrying seems the only proper thing to do.
Too frequently such methods merely mess up a couple of people’s lives. More than a third of all the millions of marriages undertaken in the last ten years are in trouble. Many are already dissolved. Many more soon will be.
A great deal of research and counseling has now been done in the field of marriage, and the findings validated. At Penn State, for example, hundreds of couples who were tested before marriage at the Marriage Counseling Service are checked periodically after marriage to find how they are making out. Of all the marriages which the service predicted would be successful, not one has yet ended in divorce or separation. Most of the people who went ahead despite the clinic’s cautions are already in serious trouble or have been divorced.