TOTAL TEST SCORE

(Total of all ten tests as scored in Chapter XI)

a.Man 460 or above, girl 500 or more, credit 25 points
b.Man 400-459, girl 500 or more, credit 20 points
c.Man 460 or above, girl 425-499, credit 15 points
d.Man 400-459, girl 425-499, credit 10 points
e.Man 350-425, girl 400 or above, credit 5 points
f.Any other combination receives no credit

Now score your compatibility on the ten additional factors following and fill the proper credits in the blocks just as you have been doing. On factors 7, 8 and 9 bear in mind that you cannot count as a part of your acquaintanceship, courtship or engagement any period of time of three months or longer when you did not see each other, as is the case where a man was overseas.

1.Parents
a. Both sets of parents happily married, credit 15 points
b. One set of parents happy, other set average, credit 10 points
c. Both sets of parents average in happiness, credit 8 points
d. One set happy, other set not happy, credit 5 points
e. Any other combination receives no credit
2.Schooling
a. Both members of the couple have had education beyond high school, credit 10 points
b. Both have completed high school, credit 8 points
c. One has some college, the other has finished high school, 5 points
d. Any other combination receives no credit
3.Religion
a. Both regularly attend the same or similar churches, credit 15 points
b. Both are Jews, Catholics, or Protestants, credit 10 points
c. Although basic religions differ, both have about the same views, credit 5 points
d. Any other combination receives no credit
4.Parental Approval
a. Both sets of parents approve this match, credit 12 points
b. One set approves, the other is not opposed, credit 10 points
c. One set approves, one set opposes, credit 5 points
d. Any other combination receives no credit
4.Age Comparison
a. Both people are within 3 years age of each other, credit 10 points
b. Girl is three or more years older than man, credit 5 points
c. Any other combination receives no credit
5.Years of Age
a. Man is at least 25 years, girl at least 22, credit 10 points
b. Man is at least 23 years, girl at least 20, credit 5 points
c. Man 22 years or older, girl at least 19, credit 3 points
d. Any other combination receives no credit
7.Acquaintanceship
a. Have known each other six years or more, credit 20 points
b. Have known each other 3 but less than 6 years, credit 15 points
c. Have known each other 2 but less than 3 years, credit 10 points
d. Have known each other 1 but less than 2 years, credit 5 points
e. Any other combination receives no credit
8.Dating
a. Have been dating and going steady 3 years or more, credit 20 points
b. Have been dating and going steady 2 but less than 3 years, credit 15 points
c. Have been going steady 1 year but less than 2 years, credit 10 points
d. Have been going steady 8 months to 1 year, credit 5 points
e. Any other combination receives no credit
9.Engagement, if Any
a. Have been definitely engaged for over 2 years, credit 20 points
b. Have been definitely engaged 18 months to 2 years, credit 15 points
c. Have been definitely engaged 12 months to 18 months, credit 10 points
d. Have been definitely engaged not less than 6 months, credit 5 points
e. If engaged less than 6 months, no credit
10.Quarrels
a. There have been no quarrels to speak of during courtship, credit 20 points
b. Any misunderstandings have been quickly settled by mutual agreement, credit 15 points
c. While there have been conflicts, no one was so serious that the couple did not see each other regularly, credit 10 points
d. Misunderstandings have been infrequent and have been settled by one or the other giving in, credit 5 points
e. Any other answer receives no credit
Total Final Score

Now, you have twenty-one scores and a Total Final Score. Let us see what this score means.

If the Total Final Score for you two is 250 or above, then you would seem to be very well matched. Furthermore, it would appear that you two people should be quite happy in marriage. If there are no unfavorable factors present such as poor physical health, or inability to make a living, and if you two people are really deeply in love, then your marriage should be a happy one.

If the final score is 200 to 249, you would still seem to be fairly well matched. If there are no unfavorable factors, if both of you are old enough for marriage, if both of you are determined to make it work, you should be happier than is the average couple.

If your final score is 150 to 199, the outlook would not seem to be too favorable. Your marriage might not be as happy as that of the average couple. Why not wait another six months? Give yourselves time to see what some of your problems are. Do something active about them. It may help you to talk things over with a marriage counselor, or with your minister, or somebody else whom you trust and who is mature enough to help you analyze the situation.

If your score is 149 or less, then it would seem that you two people should put off marriage for six months or perhaps a year or longer. You can be sure there are some factors present that should make you stop, look, and listen. Perhaps both of you are not well adjusted as separate personalities, or to each other. Maybe you are of radically different religions, or your parents are opposed to your marriage. Perhaps you need to have a much longer period of courtship or engagement. Whatever the reason, you should talk the matter over with some person competent to advise you. See a good marriage counselor or psychologist who specializes in guidance. Talk things over with your minister, rabbi, or priest. You don’t want to make a mistake and have an unhappy marriage that might terminate in separation or divorce.