The Etiquette of Engagement and Marriage
Describing Modern Manners and Customs of Courtship and Marriage, and giving Full Details regarding the Wedding Ceremony and Arrangements
By G.R.M. Devereux
Author of "Etiquette for Women," etc, etc.
First published January 1903
This etext prepared from the reprint of March 1919 published by C. Arthur Pearson Ltd., Henrietta Street London and printed by Neill and Co. Ltd., Edinburgh.
LIST OF CONTENTS
| Chapter | Page | |
| INTRODUCTORY REMARKS | [13] | |
| I | THE BEGINNINGS OF COURTSHIP--FAVOURABLE OPPORTUNITIES--INTELLECTUAL AFFINITY--ARTISTIC FELLOWSHIP--ATHLETIC COMRADESHIP--AMATEUR ACTING--SOCIAL INTERCOURSE--DIFFERENT IDEAS OF ETIQUETTE | [16] |
| II | INTRODUCTIONS--RECOGNITION OF AFFINITY, OR LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT--HOW TO FOLLOW UP AN ACQUAINTANCE--KINDLY OFFICES OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS | [21] |
| III | INTERCOURSE BETWEEN UNCONFESSED LOVERS--THE QUESTION OF PRESENTS--EXCHANGE OF HOSPITALITY--THE MAN WHO LIVES AT HOME--THE MAN IN ROOMS | [25] |
| IV | INTERCOURSE WITH (1) THE HOME GIRL; (2) THE BACHELOR GIRL; (3) THE BUSINESS GIRL; (4) THE STUDENT OR PROFESSIONAL GIRL--FRIENDS WHO BECOME LOVERS | [30] |
| V | FLIRTS, MALE AND FEMALE--HE CHANGES HIS MIND ON THE VERGE OF A PROPOSAL--HOW SHE ACCEPTS THE SITUATION--HOW SHE MAY GIVE ENCOURAGEMENT OR WARD OFF AN UNWELCOME OFFER | [36] |
| VI | THE QUESTION OF AGE--YOUNG LOVERS--YOUNG MEN WHO WOO MATURITY--OLD MEN WHO COURT YOUTH--MIDDLE-AGED LOVERS | [41] |
| VII | PROPOSALS: PREMEDITATED, SPONTANEOUS, PRACTICAL, OR ROMANTIC--NO RULE POSSIBLE--TACT WANTED IN CHOICE OF OPPORTUNITY--UNSEEMLY HASTE AN INSULT TO A WOMAN--KEEN SENSE OF HUMOUR DANGEROUS TO SENTIMENT--SOME THINGS TO AVOID--VAGUELY WORDED OFFERS--WHEN SHE MAY TAKE THE INITIATIVE | [46] |
| VIII | ENGAGEMENTS--THE ATTITUDE OF PARENTS AND GUARDIANS--MAKING IT KNOWN IN THE FAMILY, TO OUTSIDE FRIENDS--CONGRATULATIONS--THE CHOICE AND GIVING OF THE RING--MAKING ACQUAINTANCE WITH FUTURE RELATIONS-IN-LAW, PERSONALLY OR BY LETTER | [51] |
| IX | HIS VISITS TO HER HOME--THE ENGAGED COUPLE IN PUBLIC--IN SOCIETY--VISITING AT THE SAME HOUSE---GOING ABOUT TOGETHER, ETC.--THE QUESTION OF EXPENSES | [56] |
| X | LOVE-LETTERS--LONG OR SHORT ENGAGEMENTS--BROKEN ENGAGEMENTS--CLANDESTINE ENGAGEMENTS--JUSTIFIABLE IN CERTAIN CASES--WHERE THE MOTHER SHARES THE SECRET--FRIENDS WHO ACT AS GO-BETWEEN | [60] |
| XI | FOREIGN ETIQUETTE OF ENGAGEMENTS--BETROTHAL MUCH MORE SERIOUS THAN IN ENGLAND | [65] |
| XII | MARRIAGE--FIXING THE DAY--PREPARATIONS--SELECTING THE BRIDESMAIDS AND THEIR DRESSES--BUYING THE WEDDING-GOWN--THE TROUSSEAU—INVITATIONS | [71] |
| XIII | WEDDING PRESENTS--CHOOSING AND FURNISHING THE HOUSE--WHAT THE BRIDEGROOM SUPPLIES--THE BRIDE'S SHARE IN THE MATTER | [77] |
| XIV | THE NATURE OF THE CEREMONY, RELIGIOUS OR CIVIL--BANNS OR LICENSE--LEGAL FORMALITIES--SETTLEMENTS, ETC. | [81] |
| XV | THE WEDDING-DAY--WHAT IS EXPECTED OF (1) THE BRIDE; (2) THE BRIDESMAIDS; (3) THE BRIDEGROOM; (4) THE BEST MAN; (5) THE BRIDE'S PARENTS--AT THE BRIDE'S HOUSE--DRESSING--STARTING FOR THE CHURCH--THE TYING OF THE KNOT--SOCIAL ASPECT--RECEPTION OR BREAKFAST | [86] |
| XVI | THE GUESTS--THE WEDDING PRESENTS ON VIEW--STARTING FOR THE HONEYMOON--DRESS AND LUGGAGE--WHERE TO GO AND HOW LONG TO STAY--INEVITABLE TEST OF TEMPERAMENT--POSSIBLE DISAPPOINTMENTS AND DISILLUSION, PASSING OR PERMANENT | [92] |
| XVII | THE RETURN HOME--A PLUNGE INTO THE PRACTICAL--HOUSEKEEPING--WEDDING CALLS--THE NEWLY-MARRIED COUPLE AT HOME AND IN SOCIETY | [97] |
| XVIII | MIXED MARRIAGES--DIFFERENCES OF COLOUR, NATIONALITY, AND RELIGION--SCOTCH MARRIAGES--MARRIAGE OF MINORS AND WARDS IN CHANCERY | [102] |
| XIX | FOREIGN ETIQUETTE OF MARRIAGE--VARIOUS CUSTOMS | [107] |
| XX | RUNAWAY MATCHES--RE-MARRIAGE OF WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS--THE CHILDREN--THE HOME--DRESS—COMPARISONS | [113] |
| XXI | MARRYING FOR LOVE; FOR MONEY; FOR A HOME; FOR A HOUSEKEEPER--CONCLUDING REMARKS | [117] |
| INDEX | [121] |
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