§ 112
Nature has, on the contrary, so arranged it, as is obvious to all who have had any true erotic experience, that a supposition that the husband gets his acme first and the wife second, in the same love episode, is an impossible one; for man is so constituted as generally to be unable to continue a love episode after reaching his own erotic acme.
On the other hand woman is so constituted as to be able to continue any love episode after she has herself passed the point of her own erotic acme.
Therefore if the simultaneity of the ideal honeymoon, mentally autoerotic as it is in its essential nature, is to give place to truly allerotic marital behaviour, this transition can take place in only one way. It is imperative that the allerotic action be that of the husband. The wife may legitimately remain mentally autoerotic for the rest of her life.
It is a marital crime for the husband to remain mentally autoerotic. That is what blasts most marriages.
Simultaneity, so unanimously approved by most erotologists, is an introducing phenomenon, belonging only to the initial stages of marital life. It should give place as soon as possible to the principle of successiveness.
§ 113
All erotologists, on the general principle of altruism and mutuality, sympathy and responsiveness, have advocated simultaneity of acme, without realizing its mental autoerotism.
This book unqualifiedly recommends succession as infinitely superior to simultaneity. Only by the arrangement of the love episode in such a way that in every love episode the husband’s erotic acme follows, even after the lapse of several minutes, the wife’s, can the spiritually deleterious results of mentally autoerotic simultaneity be avoided. Only thus can the most inexpressible joy be experienced by both husband and wife. Only thus can they be said to be, erotically, perfectly mated.